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SPARKteam applications are now open! We’re seeking girl activists who are passionate, driven, and want to fight the sexualization of girls and women in media. SPARKteam activists work together with the help of adult leadership to plan & carry out global, national, and local actions that push back against sexualization and objectification while promoting girls’ rights to a healthy sexuality. 

In 2013-2014, SPARKteam members did a ton of cool stuff, from documenting the lack of women and people of color in Google Doodles to calling out terrible marketing aimed at teen girls; from speaking in front of global policymakers at the UN to blogging about the daily impact of sexualization and its bedfellows: racism, sexism, heterosexism, & cissexism. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

And now: we want you! Here’s what we’re looking for: 

  • girls—both trans girls and cis girls—between the ages of 13 and 22
  • who are passionate about activism, organizing, and changing the world
  • who want to work with about 30 other girls and a few adult organizers to dream, scheme, and carry out large and small actions
  • who have 15-25 hours a month to dedicate to SPARK
  • who are located anywhere on this beautiful earth! SPARK is a US-based organization but SPARKteam membership is open to girls globally 

Click through for all the details! Applications are due May 7th, 2014, at 11:59 PM eastern time. Got questions? Email sparkteam@sparksummit.com and we’ll get back to you ASAP! 


Every time I see a post about hymens and virginity, I need to say this and reiterate it and just make everyone understand:
your first time is not supposed to hurt
your first time is not supposed to hurt
your first time is not supposed to hurt
IT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT TO BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME
REASONS YOU MIGHT BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME:
Not enough lubrication.
Not enough preparation.
Not enough foreplay.
Your partner is a giant dicksplash.
TIPS AND HINTS FOR YOUR FIRST TIME THAT I WISH I HAD:
LUBE IS YOUR VERY BEST FRIEND! Yes the vagina secretes a fluid that can act as a natural lubricant but that is not enough for vaginal sex. And for some women (like myself), they do not secrete nearly enough for even penetration, let alone sex. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE.
FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!!! You want to be good and turned on, like super turned on, coz the more you’re aroused, the more pliant and warm your vagina is going to be, and it’s more likely to allow a dick in without tearing. Like even when you’re giving birth, doctors nowadays will actually massage the outer rim of your vagina so that everything loosens up and allows A FUCKING BABY TO BE BORN WITHOUT TEARING YOU.
PREPARATION (WHICH IS SOMEWHAT RELATED TO FOREPLAY)!!!! If you have never had anything in your vagina before, you’re probs gonna need a couple fingers in there to help you loosen up. This can easily be tied into foreplay.
A GENTLE, UNDERSTANDING LOVER WHO KNOWS AND RESPECTS THE ABOVE HINTS!!!! You don’t have to be in love with the person you first have sex with, but it should be someone who respects you and your boundaries!!! Before having sex with someone, explain to them these things and your masturbatory experience, your wants and needs. If they don’t respect that THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR VAGINA.
Basically it comes down to this: if your partner says “it’s normal to bleed the first time,” sit him (or her) down and talk to them about what actually happens and how it’s supposed to go. If they respect that, cool. If they don’t, fuck ‘em. Actually no, don’t fuck them, dump their ass and find someone who doesn’t subscribe to the belief that anything as lovely and intimate as your first time having sex has to hurt.
This is a basic patriarchal myth to both scare women from having sex, as well as contribute to the laziness of men in terms of making sex enjoyable for their female partners.
Sex never has to hurt. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you that it fucking has to.
If you have health problems that legitimately make vaginal intercourse hurt, there are a billion other things you can do with your partner, and you should communicate your health issues to every single partner. Again, if they respect that, rock on. If they don’t, tell them ‘adios’ and leave the bedroom.
even more information about the hymen

Every time I see a post about hymens and virginity, I need to say this and reiterate it and just make everyone understand:

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt

IT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT TO BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME

REASONS YOU MIGHT BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME:

  • Not enough lubrication.
  • Not enough preparation.
  • Not enough foreplay.
  • Your partner is a giant dicksplash.

TIPS AND HINTS FOR YOUR FIRST TIME THAT I WISH I HAD:

  • LUBE IS YOUR VERY BEST FRIEND! Yes the vagina secretes a fluid that can act as a natural lubricant but that is not enough for vaginal sex. And for some women (like myself), they do not secrete nearly enough for even penetration, let alone sex. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE.
  • FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!!! You want to be good and turned on, like super turned on, coz the more you’re aroused, the more pliant and warm your vagina is going to be, and it’s more likely to allow a dick in without tearing. Like even when you’re giving birth, doctors nowadays will actually massage the outer rim of your vagina so that everything loosens up and allows A FUCKING BABY TO BE BORN WITHOUT TEARING YOU.
  • PREPARATION (WHICH IS SOMEWHAT RELATED TO FOREPLAY)!!!! If you have never had anything in your vagina before, you’re probs gonna need a couple fingers in there to help you loosen up. This can easily be tied into foreplay.
  • A GENTLE, UNDERSTANDING LOVER WHO KNOWS AND RESPECTS THE ABOVE HINTS!!!! You don’t have to be in love with the person you first have sex with, but it should be someone who respects you and your boundaries!!! Before having sex with someone, explain to them these things and your masturbatory experience, your wants and needs. If they don’t respect that THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR VAGINA.

Basically it comes down to this: if your partner says “it’s normal to bleed the first time,” sit him (or her) down and talk to them about what actually happens and how it’s supposed to go. If they respect that, cool. If they don’t, fuck ‘em. Actually no, don’t fuck them, dump their ass and find someone who doesn’t subscribe to the belief that anything as lovely and intimate as your first time having sex has to hurt.

This is a basic patriarchal myth to both scare women from having sex, as well as contribute to the laziness of men in terms of making sex enjoyable for their female partners.

Sex never has to hurt. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you that it fucking has to.

If you have health problems that legitimately make vaginal intercourse hurt, there are a billion other things you can do with your partner, and you should communicate your health issues to every single partner. Again, if they respect that, rock on. If they don’t, tell them ‘adios’ and leave the bedroom.

even more information about the hymen

(via hrhelizabethiii)

According to a study from the University of Washington, the rift between healthy grub and junk food is wider than it’s ever been. Researchers were able to buy 2,000 calories of junk food for $3.52 — that’s an entire day’s caloric intake — where nutritious foods cost them a whopping $36 for the same 2,000 calories.

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Food In The USA (via trashysnacks)

So, you know, STFU forever about “it’s cheaper to eat healthy LOL poor people don’t get how money works!”

(via thebicker)

(via violeteyelids)

New GoldieBlox video! (Link has context and elaboration on the facts and whatnot. Full transparency: I totally wrote it. sunglasses.emoji)

As TIME says:

Reasons this ad is amazing:

1) It’s an old-school allegory for style over substance: an innocent young egg gets all dolled up for what she thinks will be a straightforward path to happiness, but then the path ENDS (because beauty fades!) and she gets caught up in a whirlwind of awesomeness and ends up learning she’s more than just a shell, all in under 90 seconds. Tightest screenplay ever.

2) It explicitly connects princessy beauty obsession with girls’ waning interest in STEM, and links that to lower wages as adults (since female engineers make 33% less than women in other fields.)

3) The egg turns the whole “girls are fragile” thing on its head. Plus, it’s Easter-themed!