There was the time an old veterinarian made an exasperated noise when I tell him that my graduating class is going to be 80% women.
There was the time I was telling a formerly trusted male veterinarian mentor that I knew one nice surgeon and one unpleasant surgeon and his first response was “is the nasty one a woman?”
Same guy, asked if the female internist and medical director of my hospital was nice. And didn’t ask the same about the male medical director. Because it matters for women but not for men?
There are the mysoginistic men at school that formed a lab group of only dudes because they didn’t want to deal with any if the women in out class.
There’s also times when my own grandpa goes on rants about women not belonging in science but then amends it with “except you Hanna, you know how proud I am of you.”
And all of the supervising techs at work are men even though 90% or more of the staff are women.
Even in a science field totally that has recently become dominated by women, men still don’t respect us or want us in their space. When women are in positions of power, they feel uncomfortable and threatened. It’s exhausting and disgusting, and I’ve heard comments like this way more often than I should have.
This is why I need feminism, and why I want to excel so badly in this field.
traditional chinese is an actual written language used by millions of people, not symbols to be thrown around at the whim of set designers because they look cool and idk, serves to create a menacing asian atmosphere. this is so disrespectful, and made even worse by the fact that this film in set it taipei, taiwan where the official written language is traditional chinese.
it doesn’t matter that this film caters to a primarily “white” audience who won’t be able to read it, the language and culture of taiwan isn’t something for you to twist and use as you deem fit because it’s “exotic.”
lucy shoots a guy for not being able to speak english.
she l i t e r a l l y shoots this taiwanese taxi driver, in taiwan for not being able to speak english. she’s in taipei and she’s shooting people as they are of no use to her because they don’t speak english.
just think about the sort of message that’s sending out. she’s not being “bad-ass strong female character who takes no shit,” she’s saying that english is useful and better. this is the type of harmful ideology that stretches all the way back from when western countries were colonising and forcing their language and customs on other countries.
let me explain with a real life example. i was born in new zealand to two taiwanese parents. i am fluent in english, but mandarin is conversational at best. my friends in taiwan say that i am “so lucky” to speak fluent english, when they are fluent in mandarin and their english level is no worse than my mandarin. they tell me that they want to perfect their english but in the same breath tell me that mandarin isn’t worth perfecting because i have english and that’s “enough”. they also tell me how pretty my white friends are when they see pictures.
this is the type of neo imperialism ideology that they’ve grown up buying into. it honestly hurts and frustrates me that they belittle their own culture like this, honestly believing that the western world is superior. this is the type of neo imperialism ideology that this film (hopefully unintentionally) promotes: white people are better and will save the day.
if they wanted to film a movie about a white women getting back at those who had violated her, why not film it in a western country? if they wanted to film it in taiwan, why not find an asian lead actress?
i do agree that we need more women protagonists in action/superhero movies, but not like this. its not okay that the female lead needs to be kidnapped and have her body cut open without her consent in order to gain her powers, and those said those powers do not make any of this racist bullshit okay.
i am just so tired and angry of poc always being brushed off to the side as either props or villains in mainstream media.
as a poc, it’s so frustrating to see that the of the standard of beauty still white women when we live in multi-cultural societies and a diverse world.
feminism is about equality. a film in which poc are presented as evil and inferior before being killed off by a superior white woman does not promote equality.
ahh! that song that you posted was cool for a bit, but i couldn't help but notice the obvious skinny shaming. she used the term "skinny bitches" and portrayed the skinny woman to be fake, and lacking in substance. I also was put off by her validating her loving her body by saying that men like those bodies better. why does it always have to be about men and pleasing them! whyyyyyy. help, plz explain
a coupleof thingsto read (tl;dr, skinny shaming is not the same thing as fat shaming and not on the same level of oppression or pervasiveness)
ia that song isn’t as good as it could be and that there are problematic aspects, among them that it promotes a girl-vs-girl aesthetic that I am not into, and I don’t want everything to be about men either! but I reblogged it for a few reasons:
the validation of sexual desirability can be a huge part of fat empowerment. i think that’s an important thing to remember in conversations about sexualization and sexuality — validation of desirability is a huge, huge part of many people’s body acceptance journey.
media like that doesn’t exist in very great quantities, and spreading it around contributes to success and might lead to more of it. WHO KNOWS.
just because something isn’t perfect doesn’t mean we should totally discount it, imo. most things are problematic. it’s a balancing act.
lots and lots of different kinds of bodies and POC! representation is important
granted, I work 12 hour days most of the week and am exhausted nearly all of the time (y’all may have noticed this blog is not nearly as active as it used to be) so I did not actually contribute to the commentary going around on that video, nor did I actively seek out any of the many threads full of great discussion. that’s my bad.
You say, "This is a judgment-free zone" in the "About this site" sidebar. But, as I understand it, in your "Open Letter to Men Who Cry 'Misandry'", you say presumptuous things about men who claim that many women do hateful things against men, and in "Man-Hating 101", you are also presumptuous that an oppressed minority cannot be prejudiced against their oppressors as a whole. My question is, how do these two seemingly judgmental claims of yours line up with this being a judgment-free zone?
It’s been over a year now since I started my campaign for trans woman inclusion at Smith College, and I’ve kept silent. I’ve not made any dorky Sherlock jokes or started any conversations about trans equality here, although—in case you’re wondering—I’ve been busy with other activism as part of the SPARKsummit intergenerational, intersectional (international as well) feminist organization. I’m a college sophomore now. The administration at Smith has paid some lip-service to trans inclusion since the campaign and petition, although their current policies are still ridiculous and unrealistic for the majority of trans women. You can read about the recent protest on campus here.
More than a year’s passed since that first letter to you. And life has moved on for me, in a lot of ways.
Me, at the beginning of the Smith Campaign.
Me, 12:40am, 7/21/2014.
I’m a premed-track English major at the UConn Honors program, and I’m both scared and excited about organic chemistry with four English classes next semester. I’ve since realized my gaming snobbery and am finally getting into League of Legends. My hair was, indeed, dark green for a while—now it’s fading into gold-brown, a weird color that somehow feels exactly right to me. The biggest change so far isn’t something that visible, though—having a year to figure out and come to terms and grow into myself has been kind to me.
I’m learning to feel my fear, but not to let it stop me or haunt me or turn me back from what I must do. I’m learning to look after myself, too. For once in my life I am aware that the proverbial Stamina Bar™ above my head isn’t infinite, and that it’s alright to ask for help rather than burning out alone. The past year has shown me that I am a person deserving of my own care, my own shield raised high.
The truth is, it’s exactly my neglecting these lessons that’s prompted me to write this letter. I told myself when I started the first draft of this letter (about half a year ago) that I’d not draw this out more than necessary. It’s difficult, and I’ve been scared to ask for the past year, and I’m scared right now, but I’ve got to ask.
I need your help, everyone, in raising money for bottom surgery—also known as SRS (a somewhat outdated but still-popular term, “sex-reassignment surgery”) or GCS (gender confirmation surgery). I would like to raise $20,000 by August 29th to repay at least the monetary debt I owe to my parents, who have already pledged to fully fund the cost of my bottom surgery. I can only hope that I’ll be able to honor the support and love my parents have given me over many more years.
Of course I’ve been thinking about all the responses I could get for a long time now.
I understand there are many worthy causes you could donate to, and I’m sure that what I ask seems outlandish. The sheer enormity of the amount I am asking for does not escape me—but the simple truth is that I want to repay in at least monetary terms, what my parents have freely given me.
I am wordlessly lucky to be my parents’ daughter. If not for them, there would be no activist Calliope Wong—there would be no campaign for trans equality in admissions at Smith, or any of it. I understand this is a great deal of money I am asking to raise. The timeframe I am looking at—about one month and a week—is also extremely short. But our power, in numbers, is so strong.
I know that not everyone is able to donate, and that is perfectly fine. Share on social media, if you’re able. I only ask that you remember—over 5,000 people signed the petition for my campaign, asking for trans women at Smith. With 5,000 supporters, repaying my monetary debt is also possible.
I write too much, now.
Just to say:
I would like to pay back the two people behind all of my efforts, my parents, so that I can finally put the question of “should I ask” and “did I try hard enough to honor them” to rest. Please, help me to repay this debt of love.
Hey Shychemist. I've been following your blog for awhile and I want to bring up something that seems dated but nonetheless holds to be accurate today. I feel like the girls who consider themselves to be on the science side of tumblr to be horribly mistaken. It's statistically proven that women applicants struggle to get into stem doctorate programs, and rightfully so, they don't belong there. examples- atomic-o-licious, brainsx , adventuresinchemistry, i can't fit anymore but you get it
It doesn’t seem dated, your attitude is dated. This is the 21st century.
Women deserve to be in STEM programs just as much as men. I’d wager they deserve to succeed in the Sciences even more than men because of the sexism and misogyny they experience.
They struggle to get in because they’re the minority, and a lot of people who could admit them are sexist (regardless of gender) because of the society they grew up in. Its not through any intellectual weakness. These women are amazing and just as smart as the men in their fields.
You have no right to say these things to these amazing women, many of whom I consider to be friends.
THE FEMINISM TAG QUICKLY IS FILLING UP WITH GRAPHIC PICTURES OF VIOLENCE, GORE, AND MUTILATION. THIS IS NO LONGER A RUMORED PLAN— IT IS A STRATEGIC, ANTI-FEMINIST ATTACK THAT IS IN PROGRESS. MEMBERS OF 4CHAN ARE BRUTALIZING THE FOLLOWING TAGS WITH HIGHLY DISTURBING AND TRIGGERING IMAGES:
Womyn of color
Unleash the dragon
Shut down 4chan
PLEASE STAY OFF OF THE FEMINISM TAG AND SIMILAR SOCIAL JUSTICE TAGS UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE.
In your upworthy article on wonder woman, how about actually addressing the actual misandry part, since it is a legitimate claimed that you conveniently brushed over. A female only society that kills men and their own male babies sounds pretty god damned misandrist to me. Then there is the original sexist origin story from the creator of Wonder Woman that apparently no men equals a utopia, which is bullshit.
Sounds like someone is mad because there’s finally going to be a Wonder Woman movie.
“The thing is that if someone is being shamed, stigmatized, bullied etc. for being fat, and we say “they aren’t fat” or “they aren’t even that fat” in their defense, what we are also saying is that there is a size at which they would deserve that treatment, and that’s just not true.
Countering fat shaming by denying fatness says that the person doesn’t deserve poor treatment (which is true) but at the expense of reinforcing the incorrect idea that they would deserve it if they were fat (or some greater degree of fat), or that being called fat is an insult. There is no size at which people deserve to be treated poorly.”—She’s Not That Fat | Dances With Fat (via tomhannigers)
The Michigan Women’s Justice & Clemency Project has done extensive research on homicide, and why women kill men versus why men kill women. It’s an important, heart-breaking read. Biiiig trigger warning for domestic violence, abuse, and homicide.
Some takeaways from this research (and pardon any gender essentialism/casual cissexism):
Women kill men primarily out of self-defense. Men kill women primarily out of sexual jealousy.
For these crimes, women are punished more harshly by US legal systems than men.
Entitlement and control is a huge factor in men killing women.
Domestic violence shelters have led to a decrease in women killing men, but not men killing women.
I am 1000% done with fat activism that doesn’t include double chins, bodies that aren’t hourglass or “pear” shaped, or fat WOC (ESPECIALLY dark skinned Black women).
"Idealized Fat", "Acceptably Fat", "GOOD FAT" is still exclusionary and harmful, and causes a lot of us to continue to hate ourselves. If you’re going to teach radically inclusive self-love, how about you step it up on the representation.
Right this minute, there is someone going through chemotherapy shopping at your grocery store, buying popsicles and ice cream to help their sore mouth, and worrying what the cashier is going to think.
There is someone on hemodialysis buying white bread instead of whole wheat, trying to keep their phosphorus levels reasonable between appointments and hoping for the best.
There is a person attending intensive outpatient treatment for their eating disorder who has been challenged by their therapist to buy a Frappuccino.
There are dietitians picking up a dozen different candy bars to eat with their clients, who feel ashamed and guilty about enjoying them.
There is someone who just doesn’t have it in them to cook right now, and this frozen pizza and canned soup will keep them going.
There are people recovering from chronic dieting and semi-starvation who are buying chocolate and chips at their deprived body’s insistence.
All around us are people listening to what their bodies need and attempting to make the best possible choice within a context of overwhelming food pressure. All of their choices are valid, and every single one of these foods is “real.”
Hello! My name is Hannah and I am writing a paper about body image and want to quote you if that is okay. Our class read your blog post about the Dove ad and I specifically want to use a quote from that. I will cite you in my paper but in order to do so I need your last name for some attributive tag thing we have to use after a quote. thank you! :)
Hey Hannah! Please feel free - I’m honored! My name is Kaye Toal. :)
Jesus goddamn CHRIST. Stop complaining about that fucking dove ad. It's amazing. Wanna know why they make out that being fat is a bad thing? It's because it is A BAD THING. IT IS BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH. No right minded company is going to promote unhealthy choices.
these messages are so cute because people who leave them always are so convinced of their Unfaltering Righteousness as if I have not gotten this message a million times before, as if this message is not parroted bullshit of a mythos surrounding obesity and health that’s quickly being dismantled, and as if media criticism and a critical take on a company selling women their own bodies is somehow something to be ashamed of
you are bawling into a void, anon. no one gives a shit. :)
Because she had the audacity to refuse an invitation to prom. Maren Sanchez is dead, murdered by a sixteen year old classmate who flew into a rage when Sanchez declined to be his date.
Maren Sanchez is dead, and multiplemediaoutlets have the goddamn audacity to call this a “dispute” over prom, as if Sanchez’s refusal makes her somehow culpable for the heinous and violent actions of her killer. As if this was a minor hallway tiff. As if this wasn’t about some young man thinking, “if I can’t have her, nobody can.” As if she was something to be had, as if she wasn’t a vibrant young woman with friends, family, dreams, and ambitions.
Maren Sanchez is dead because of male entitlement. Because we teach young men that they deserve the pretty girl as a prize for overcoming their life’s obstacles - we teach them this in just about every movie, book, and television show they consume: women are prizes, not people. Maren Sanchez’s murderer heard her refusal, and felt that stabbing was his best recourse.
Maren Sanchez is dead, and she likely will soon be just another name in the endless list of women murdered by men - while she and her murderer are barely more than children.
SPARKteam applications are now open! We’re seeking girl activists who are passionate, driven, and want to fight the sexualization of girls and women in media. SPARKteam activists work together with the help of adult leadership to plan & carry out global, national, and local actions that push back against sexualization and objectification while promoting girls’ rights to a healthy sexuality.
“According to a study from the University of Washington, the rift between healthy grub and junk food is wider than it’s ever been. Researchers were able to buy 2,000 calories of junk food for $3.52 — that’s an entire day’s caloric intake — where nutritious foods cost them a whopping $36 for the same 2,000 calories.”—
Trans men actually only experience misdirected misogyny. The insistence that they need a voice in feminism is both misogynistic and transphobic. Trans men are just as much men as cis men are, and they still benefit from the patriarchy.
Of course trans men are just as much men as cis men are. And many trans men do benefit from patriarchy. That doesn’t invalidate their experiences under patriarchy when they were treated like women, which many trans men have experienced.
None of this changes the fact that trans male experiences are valuable in intersectional feminism.
If there is nothing wrong with Trans-women operating in Feminism, what about Trans-men? Does Feminism view trans-men as being as male similar to how views Trans-women as being female?
Okay, first of all: trans women, trans men. It’s a descriptor, not a proper noun.
Trans men are more than welcome to be feminists, imo. Lord knows they experience oppression. Trans men also often experience male privilege (there’s a whole lot that trans men have talked about wrt “passing” and how complicated that can be; you can read some good stuff here.)* But they deserve a spot at the table, absolutely. Many trans men have experienced sexism and misogyny from both sides of the coin — having it enacted upon them and being encouraged to enact it. That’s a valuable perspective.
Any discussion of gender parity is incomplete without including the voices of people other than white cis men and women. Frankly, I think cis (white, straight) men should be able to have a seat at the table, too. But they need to earn it through rigorous assessment of their own privilege, and, you know, the ability to listen.
*I would actually love other resources from, you know, actual trans people on this issue to add to my bookmarks — let me know if you’ve come across some!