“According to a study from the University of Washington, the rift between healthy grub and junk food is wider than it’s ever been. Researchers were able to buy 2,000 calories of junk food for $3.52 — that’s an entire day’s caloric intake — where nutritious foods cost them a whopping $36 for the same 2,000 calories.”—
Trans men actually only experience misdirected misogyny. The insistence that they need a voice in feminism is both misogynistic and transphobic. Trans men are just as much men as cis men are, and they still benefit from the patriarchy.
Of course trans men are just as much men as cis men are. And many trans men do benefit from patriarchy. That doesn’t invalidate their experiences under patriarchy when they were treated like women, which many trans men have experienced.
None of this changes the fact that trans male experiences are valuable in intersectional feminism.
If there is nothing wrong with Trans-women operating in Feminism, what about Trans-men? Does Feminism view trans-men as being as male similar to how views Trans-women as being female?
Okay, first of all: trans women, trans men. It’s a descriptor, not a proper noun.
Trans men are more than welcome to be feminists, imo. Lord knows they experience oppression. Trans men also often experience male privilege (there’s a whole lot that trans men have talked about wrt “passing” and how complicated that can be; you can read some good stuff here.)* But they deserve a spot at the table, absolutely. Many trans men have experienced sexism and misogyny from both sides of the coin — having it enacted upon them and being encouraged to enact it. That’s a valuable perspective.
Any discussion of gender parity is incomplete without including the voices of people other than white cis men and women. Frankly, I think cis (white, straight) men should be able to have a seat at the table, too. But they need to earn it through rigorous assessment of their own privilege, and, you know, the ability to listen.
*I would actually love other resources from, you know, actual trans people on this issue to add to my bookmarks — let me know if you’ve come across some!
Heya! Just saw your reblog of My Mad Fat Diary and was wondering if you would recommend that show. From the gifs I've seen around Tumblr it looks like a show that promotes body positivity, but I'd like to know if it's actually good or not before venturing further.
I would absolutely, 100% recommend this show, but be warned that it can be very triggering.
1. Girls Shalt Not Have Sex.
(someone asked me what the guy word for ‘slut’ is
and I couldn’t find an answer.
it’s an old story: a rumour goes around that so-and-so
blew a boy in the disabled toilets.
the girl fakes a cough to get herself sent home
to escape the classroom-wide hiss of ‘slut’
while the boy she blew walks into the same class
and is greeted by an onslaught of high-fives)
2. Girls Shalt Love Boys.
(when I was ten, there was a movie trailer where two girls
leaned in for a kiss, and I felt sick for the rest of the day.
it took four years
along with faux-casual questions to friends
useless quizzes on the internet
entries in a diary that I later scribbled out
to admit, fine, okay, yes,
and another year after that to say it without mumbling)
3. Girls Shalt Not Be Bitches.
(it took over ten years of school for me to realize
my women teachers got called bitches
for doing things that my male teachers got called efficient for.
we were assigned to a group project in science class
and whenever my friend tried to tell the others to quiet down
so they could get on with the work,
she was jeered into silence
and she never found it fair that her boyfriend did
the same thing and the noise stopped.)
4. Girls Shalt Have A Vagina.
(she introduced herself with a deep voice and a gushing smile.
she had a pink dress and an adam’s apple
she had a necklace resting above her cleavage
she had escaped from an all-boys high school
and I didn’t understand until I learned later
gender is more than the two rigid boxes
that we are told to tick one of)
5. Girls Shalt Smile.
(he frowned when the subject was brought up
and he shrugged a lot as he explained
that we look better when we smile. Less hostile.
His shrugs stiffened when I asked him why we shouldn’t look hostile.
‘I dunno,’ he said, dropping to a mumble. ‘Girls aren’t s’posed to look hostile, I guess.’
The next time someone walked past me on the street
and told me to smile,
I gave him my sunniest grin
and a middle finger.)
“Ancient moon priestesses were called virgins. ‘Virgin’ meant not married, not belonging to a man - a woman who was ‘one-in-herself’. The very word derives from a Latin root meaning strength, force, skill; and was later applied to men: virile. Ishtar, Diana, Astarte, Isis were all called virgin, which did not refer to sexual chastity, but sexual independence. And all great culture heroes of the past, mythic or historic, were said to be born of virgin mothers: Marduk, Gilgamesh, Buddha, Osiris, Dionysus, Genghis Khan, Jesus - they were all affirmed as sons of the Great Mother, of the Original One, their worldly power deriving from her. When the Hebrews used the word, and in the original Aramaic, it meant ‘maiden’ or ‘young woman’, with no connotations to sexual chastity. But later Christian translators could not conceive of the ‘Virgin Mary’ as a woman of independent sexuality, needless to say; they distorted the meaning into sexually pure, chaste, never touched.”—Monica Sjoo, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth (via tierdropp)
ok so all these guys who are like “men have it hard too!!! we’re expected to be manly and emotionless, we have feelings!!!” do realize that it’s other men who enforce those standards on guys. literally guys created those standards to be more powerful than women. so maybe instead of getting angry at girls for talking about their oppression, realize that you should be fighting with girls against unfair gender expectations and inequality
Before John Green, his general category of realistic (non-fantasy) YA was rife with teen angst and “issues” fiction that you might have associated with the legendary Judy Blume, or with newer writers like Sarah Dessen or Laurie Halse Anderson. Anderson’s classic 1999 novel Speak, about a high schooler struggling to deal with the aftermath of sexual assault, was so influential that three years later Penguin launched an entire imprint named after it. One of the books launched under the behest of Speak was Green’s Looking for Alaska. But it’s Green whose name you’re more likely to know today, not Anderson’s, although Anderson has won more awards and written more books.
On Twitter, Green has 2 million followers. Compared to the rest of the leaders in Young Adult fiction, that number is staggering. To approach even half the Twitter influence of John Green all by himself, you need an entire army of YA women. Anderson, Blume, Dessen, Veronica Roth, Cassandra Clare, Richelle Mead, Margaret Stohl, Kami Garcia, Rainbow Rowell, Maureen Johnson, Malinda Lo, Holly Black, LJ Smith, Ellen Hopkins, Shannon Hale, Lauren Myracle, Libba Bray, Melissa Marr, and Leigh Bardugo: As a group these women only have about 1.2 million followers on Twitter. That’s the voice of one man outweighing several decades of women who have had major successes, critical acclaim, and cultural influence.
Despite how incredibly common abortion is, it remains mired in stigma and misinformation. Much of what we may think we know about this subject is actually outright lies told by abortion opponents to dissuade women out of seeking safe and legal abortion care.
My first piece at Rolling Stone is now up! I debunk seven common anti-choice lies about abortion. Please read and share, friends!
Regarding eating disorders and seeing doctors: If you think you have an ED, SEE A DOCTOR NO MATTER WHAT YOUR WEIGHT IS! (this goes for people with OED and BED too) Regardless of your weight, you can cause serious harm to your body in regards to organ damage, hormone and nutrient imbalances, etc. I have struggled with an ED for over 10 years and not once have I been underweight, but numerous times I've been in severe medical danger. WEIGHT DOES NOT DETERMINE HEALTH, SEE A DOCTOR.
How do I politely tell a friend her talking about dieting is triggering? She and I have both suffered from disordered eating in the past. I think she is very skinny so when she talks about how she wants to lose weight it throws me into a panic. She's a relatively new friend (we both met this term on a study abroad), so it's not like she is obligated to already understand my problems, but I feel like I should say something before it gets worse.
tw: eating disorder
I agree that you should say something!
If you feel you trust this friend, ask to have a one on one conversation with her about your disordered eating. Use “I feel” kinds of phrases instead of “You make me feel” phrases, and explain to her why her talking about dieting makes you feel anxious and upset. Something like, “Hey friend, I really value and care about our friendship, and I just wanted to let you know that I have a history of disordered eating. I’m trying to work on this, and I hope I can have your support, though I understand if you feel you can’t take it on. When you talk about dieting, I often feel really anxious and upset because diets are a trigger for me. Can we work on keeping weight and diets out of our conversations, at least for the foreseeable future?”
If you need to work up to this, start gently changing the subject whenever her diet comes up. She says “Ugh, I need to lose weight,” you say, “Oh, I don’t think so. Hey, did you see Brooklyn Nine Nine this week?” or whatever. Acknowledging what she said without dwelling on it, and then redirecting, makes her feel that you’re listening without you having to sit there and listen to her trigger you.
If she’s receptive to talking — and it sounds like she would be, because you have it in common — it’ll open a good dialogue for you guys to talk about it and figure out ways to support each other and you’ll probably become closer. Yay!
If she’s not, that’s OK too. It has nothing to do with you. People deal with their body stuff in different ways! But I think if I were in that situation, I would try to distance myself from her a little bit, because triggering people aren’t fun!
Whenever I search for help w/ my eating disorder, all I find is help for anorexic or bulimic people. I'm an over-eater, I eat to bury my thoughts, but I don't throw up afterwards, i just get fatter which makes me want to eat even more. Can you link me to any good sites for ppl trying to overcome overeating?
tw: eating disorder
I can. Start with Overeaters Anonymous; they’re an anonymous support program to help you with your journey. Through them you’ll be able to find a network of sympathetic, supportive people.
ED question: I've finally come to terms with the fact that I have disordered eating. How do I know if it's serious for me to need to tell someone (other than my close friends)? TW height/weight I'm 5'7" and my weight fluctuates around 120 lbs, though I prefer it to be closer to 115 (knowing full well I actually look better closer to 125). Pretty sure this is healthy for my height. If I'm not underweight, I don't need to see a doctor, right?
tw: disordered eating
First of all, I’m not a doctor or a licensed professional, so there’s that.
You may not need to see a doctor, but you should definitely find a therapist. Definitely. I’ve found therapy incredibly helpful in managing my EDNOS and unpacking the reasons behind it and the things that trigger it. It’s not something that’s easy to manage alone, and if you’re confessing it here, it’s serious enough that you should reach out for support.
Today’s the first day of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week. With that in mind and as we head into spring, some handy reminders from your friendly neighborhood body acceptance activist!
First of all, feel free to ask me any questions you have about fat and weight stigma, or body acceptance. Or my own experiences with disordered eating. (But note that I’ll ignore and block you if you start being an asshole. #bye)
Second, please keep the following in mind:
- Talking about dieting can be very hurtful and triggering! You never know who’s in a group of people with you. Aside from often making people with no eating disordered behavior feel guilty and shamed for not being on a diet (literally everyone I know get stressed out talking about diets), you might accidentally trigger someone who has a history of ED. This is a serious thing, y’all. Diet talk is so accepted in our culture, especially among women, that a lot of people do it casually all the time, but remember that your discussion of your diet might seriously harm someone near you.
- Ditto using “fat” as a word for a feeling! Fat is not a feeling, it’s an adjective. Saying that you’re being so fat for finishing your pancakes or that you “feel so fat today” reinforces the societally accepted trope that being fat is the worst thing ever, and that fat people are gross and lazy and gluttonous and undesirable. What you mean when you say “I feel fat” is that you feel gross, undesirable, gluttonous, and all those things I just mentioned. It’s OK to express your feelings! And if you feel gross, by all means vent to someone about how you feel gross. But try not to use “fat” as a catch-all for those feelings. Aside from this being just kind of an asshole thing to do, you as a person will feel so much better if you stop equating feeling good = skinny and feeling bad = fat. Trust me.
These are the two things that I want most to be gone from this world (well, aside from racism, misogyny, transphobia, rape culture, and economic inequality). If you would be so kind as to, even for just this week, watch how you talk about yourself and others, I’d be so chuffed.
“I’m here today because I am gay. And because… maybe I can make a difference. To help others have an easier and more hopeful time. Regardless, for me, I feel a personal obligation and a social responsibility. I also do it selﬁshly, because I am tired of hiding and I am tired of lying by omission. I suffered for years because I was scared to be out. My spirit suffered, my mental health suffered and my relationships suffered. And I’m standing here today, with all of you, on the other side of all that pain. I am young, yes, but what I have learned is that love, the beauty of it, the joy of it and yes, even the pain of it, is the most incredible gift to give and to receive as a human being. And we deserve to experience love fully, equally, without shame and without compromise.”—Ellen Page (x)
Trying to help the woman who gave me everything even when we had nothing.
My friend is holding a fund raiser to help save her mom’s house.
By donating you will be entered in a raffle and could win some awesome Rooster Teeth/Achievement Hunter Swag!
Please, ever $1 helps.
I couldn’t say why this fundraiser of all fundraisers has caught my attention, but it has. This person’s mother has been the subject to years of financial and emotional manipulation and abuse from her ex-husband who seems hell bent on ruining her life and taking away her home despite being quite wealthy himself.
Being able to pay off the (relatively small) amount left on the mortgage would free her from the threat of him having her home taken away.
Yeah. Idk. This woman hasn’t had an easy life and I really hope that she gets the funds she needs. It’s no Homestuck video game, but arguably it’s more important.
Almost every time I speak to teenagers, particularly young female students who want to talk to me about feminism, I find myself staggered by how much they have read, how creatively they think and how curiously bullshit-resistant they are. Because of the subjects I write about, I am often contacted by young people and I see it as a part of my job to reply to all of them - and doing so has confirmed a suspicions I’ve had for some time. I think that the generation about to hit adulthood is going to be rather brilliant.
Young people getting older is not, in itself, a fascinating new cultural trend. Nonetheless the encroaching adulthood and the people who grew up in a world where expanding technological access collided with the collapse of the neoliberal economic consensus is worth paying attention to. Because these kids are smart, cynical and resilient, and I don’t mind saying that they scare me a little.
”—‘Today’s teendagers are smarter, tougher and braver than my generation - and yours, too’, Laurie Penny (via hymenopterror)
ASDAH has revised the HAES(r) Principles. I think they have done a great job addressing some of the previous problems with intersectionality and social justice issues:
The Health At Every Size® Principles are:
Weight Inclusivity: Accept and respect the inherent diversity of body shapes and sizes and reject the idealizing or pathologizing of specific weights.
Health Enhancement: Support health policies that improve and equalize access to information and services, and personal practices that improve human well-being, including attention to individual physical, economic, social, spiritual, emotional, and other needs.
Respectful Care: Acknowledge our biases, and work to end weight discrimination, weight stigma, and weight bias. Provide information and services from an understanding that socio-economic status, race, gender, sexual orientation, age, and other identities impact weight stigma, and support environments that address these inequities.
Eating for Well-being: Promote flexible, individualized eating based on hunger, satiety, nutritional needs, and pleasure, rather than any externally regulated eating plan focused on weight control.
Life-Enhancing Movement: Support physical activities that allow people of all sizes, abilities, and interests to engage in enjoyable movement, to the degree that they choose.