[TRIGGER WARNING: domestic violence, misogyny]
It’s called (HUGE trigger warning on this link) Domestic Violence Turtle and it is, as you might expect, stunningly unfunny.
What is exhausting to me about this meme is not only that each page has ten different versions of “bitch get me a sandwich” or “bitch get in the kitchen” jokes, but that it exists in a world that’s supposed to be post-feminist. Of course, we know that such a world does not exist, and if anything could prove that (other than, of course… everything else that could prove that, from the GOP’s War on Women to the default sexualized woman on TV and in movies), it is the fact that there is now a fucking meme whose entire premise is that domestic violence is funny.
I keep trying to think of a way to finish this with a punchline, some kind of wry sarcasm in the face of this kind of bullshit, but I can’t. I just feel bitter. I am dully unsurprised by this particular development and wary of posting my outrage anywhere, because you know, it’s a joke. I’m just a humorless feminist. Can’t I take a joke?
“What I want is for you to write FUCK ME on your chest. And then I want you to walk out that door and I want you to walk down the street and anybody that wants to fuck you, say sure, no problem. And when they do, you have to say thank you very much and make sure that you have a smile on your face and then you stupid fucking coward, you’re going to know what it feels like to be a woman.”
Reblogging again because this can never be said enough.
HOLY SHIT. Former sex worker trans woman of color’s book about food, community, and identity. I AM SUPPORTING THIS. YOU SHOULD, TOO!
A family that cooks and eats together, stays together. In Cooking in Heels, first time author Ceyenne Doroshow takes tradition to heart with over 50 recipes designed to be easy and inexpensive for the whole family to enjoy. As a transgender woman who was inspired to write her book while serving prison time for a prostitution conviction, Ceyenne might not seem like the most likely representative of home cooked family values. But her book, which is peppered with good humor and begins with the story of her life, shows that food and love are the ties that bind, and family is what you make it.
Ceyenne Doroshow and Audacia Ray, the founder of the Red Umbrella Project and the editor of the book, were introduced by Ceyenne’s lawyers at the Sex Workers Project in February 2011 and have been collaborating on Cooking in Heels since then. In the early days of our collaboration, Ceyenne showed up with handwritten recipes and lots of stories, and Audacia showed up with an audio recorder to try and capture Ceyenne’s tales. The Red Umbrella Project has been supporting Ceyenne in honing her storytelling and amplifying her voice, and she has shared her talent for storytelling as a frequent performer at the Red Umbrella Diaries storytelling series that Audacia hosts in New York. Ceyenne’s vision forCooking in Heels is certainly bigger than a breadbox, and the Red Umbrella Project has been enthusiastically supporting that dream.
We need your help to create a book that inspires people to cook together, and gets people talking about gender identity, sex work, and struggles for social justice, topics that don’t seem “family friendly,” but that tear apart families and harm individuals when they aren’t discussed. There’s no better place for laughter, comfort, and conversation than the kitchen - and we want to invite you into Ceyenne’s kitchen to see the world through her eyes.
the one thing college has taught me about dudes, is that I have this weird feeling of obligation to talk and entertain guys who want to speak to me. Oh, some guy takes an interest in me and feels the need to make conversation everytime we meet? better talk back or get labeled a rude bitch. (or there is at least some semi-natural fear/instinct to never be anything short of pleasant and constantly open, always smiling.)
A girl does the same thing, or even slightly shows a dude attention? “this bitch wants the dick SOOO BAD!!!” yeah, ok.
Following is a list of cisgender identity privileges. If you’re not familiar with the term, “cisgender” means having a biological sex that matches your gender identity and expression, resulting in other people accurately perceiving your gender. If you are cisgender, the list below are all benefits that result from your alignment of identity and perceived idenity. Folks who are transgender/genderqueer don’t have all the same privileges. Read more about gender in my comprehensive gender identity guide.
- Use public restrooms without fear of verbal abuse, physical intimidation, or arrest
- Use public facilities such as gym locker rooms and store changing rooms without stares, fear, or anxiety.
- Strangers don’t assume they can ask you what your genitals look like and how you have sex.
click here for more »»
Nothing is more annoying than reading or commenting online about body image issues and having a guy wander in and proclaim that he finds all kinds of women attractive and we don’t even need to wear makeup anyway. (via feminist-submissive)
i’m just going to keep reblogging this.
Reblogging again for the petition link AGAIN, because it makes me really angry that this has been going on for so long and the petition still has less than 10,000 signatures. I feel like everyone has to know about CeCe McDonald right now, but clearly not.
I wanna thank you all for following this here blog, it means a TON to me.
I have a bunch of stuff on the burner right now and not a lot of time to work on any of it - I’m in a production of The Vagina Monologues that opens this weekend (!!), have to defend my thesis Friday, and am gearing up for a massive school-wide festival that’s open to the public and that the club I’m part of (full disclosure: it’s Classics Club) is putting on skits for. Plus I have three jobs. And a full slate of classes.
SHORTHAND: I AM MAD BUSY. This is why most of the content on this blog so far has been reblogs, and why I’ve fallen behind on the inbox (so sorry about that one, guys).
So this is basically a heads-up to say I’m not ignoring you, and the things I’ve been talking about (resource lists, how to run a workshop, what to say to jerks, etc) is still coming. It’s just… taking longer than expected, sigh.
Anyway, hope y’all are well! And thanks again for following, you’re the breast.
If white heterosexual men determine the ‘truth’ of rape, then the law of rape will reflect society as experienced by white heterosexual men.
Women’s sexual experiences will only be understood in terms of this masculine reality and law may, consequently, work against women’s interests.
Representations of rape thus often naturalize female passivity and legitimize male sexual aggression, treat only certain classes or types of people as rapeable and have a disciplinary effect on men and women’s social behaviors.” —
Kylie Stephen, Sexualized Bodies
*I would say white heterosexual cis men.