In response to this picture of me at SlutWalk NYC back in October, which was posted by A Girl’s Guide to Taking Over the World on Facebook today (I didn’t know, a couple of friends of mine alerted me).
These are all the comments that deal directly with my body or appearance (plus one comment comparing me to a rat).
Kevin Steklenburg I will teach him… To not wear his underwear outside his pants, then I think how to excorcise and eat right would be next. I mean lets be real here, the zombie apocalypse is comeing.
Scott Sparkman You made your point now get back to occupy wall street with the rest of the rats you socialize with.
Thomas Rossi I’ll teach him to stay away from fat, lunatics who are too old to wear pajamas in public.
Julian Cotte Stay away from those crazy bitches :D
Owen Sweeney is that Napoleon Dynamite in the background??
Owen Sweeney how can you be taken serious in that outfit ?? is that the Weezer logo?
Peter Gallagher-Witham ”Guys don’t make passes to girls who wear glasses and (can’t say it…)…” Is this the theme we’re channeling? OR, how about, “What do, could, should we teach our children?” Whole lot of stereotyping going on in this photo.
Jesse Peter her arm has a double chin
Darryl Jinnxy Brown In saying ‘How will I protect my daughter’ your victimising her before anything has been committed,she will grow up thinking thats how it is, and probably end up standing at rallies with rather silly banners asking the world to correct theirselves for the failings that you as a parent created… teach them, love, respect, care and consideration, not,’ its up to you to sort it all out,I’m too busy complaining about it ‘… sorry dont mean to offend anyone on this,just sayin what i see !.
If anyone, ever, tells me that I’m being unreasonable or man-hating for being wary or distrusting of how men perceive me, ever EVER again, I will simply point them here.
I don’t know why I keep revisiting this thread. It’s becoming harder and harder to brush it off as the day goes on - particularly now that the “lunatic” and “crazy” bullshit has started to be flung around.
There are a lot of comments in solidarity or defending me, mind. But trying to focus on those instead is proving kind of fruitless.
Here is my response, which has 45 likes and counting, which makes me feel real good:
Kaye Toal Oh, and to the people commenting on my body/my outfit/the fact that I’m fat/the fact that I’m supposedly unattractive… you’re really only embarrassing yourselves. It says a whole lot more about you than it does about me.
That is, of course, true.
Still it’s hard. Activism in general is hard, of course, but sometimes when you’re going through a streak where you’re able to be cocooned with like-minded people you forget how cruel and ignorant the rest of the world is.
I was going to post this on my personal blog, but I thought I’d share it here to remind myself of the reasons I do what I do and for anyone who feels like they’re alone. You’re not alone. We’re all going through this bullshit together, and remember: anyone who says anything nasty to you is revealing far more about themselves than they are about you.