yo I just gotta take a minute, take a knee, take a Tebow and point out how much I hate this kind of meaningless truism
because you know what? sometimes you gotta throw in the fucking towel. hard work and giving things your all is all well and good but like, let’s be real, if a job or a task or a relationship is sucking your soul out through your ears it might just be time to make like a tree and branch the hell out of that particular situation (you know, if you can; obviously, if you’re poor or the task is a necessity or you’re in an abusive relationship, that adds another dimension of complexity to, well, anything).
take my ex-boyfriend for instance (no seriously, take him, he’s yours if you want his dumb ass). that relationship was not easy. that relationship was completely devoid of any kind of real communication or respect or anything other than co-dependent stifling bullshit, complete with a nice little cherry of “routinely making me feel bad about myself or insecure about our relationship,” and I tried so fucking, fucking hard because it was hard but I still thought it was something I wanted. until I wised the hell up and broke up with him for like, twelve hours in senior year, and then had a shitfit because I was still in love with him and I wanted it to work so we got back together and nothing changed because people sometimes don’t change no matter how much effort you’re trying to make and frankly let’s be a little brutally honest with ourselves here, followers, if someone needs to change for you or needs you to change for them then that’s maybe not a relationship you should be in, anyway
and dear sweet Christ NOTHING ABOUT IT WAS EASY, I have never worked harder in my life than I did at trying to taxidermy that dead relationship, but you know what? NOTHING ABOUT IT WAS WORTH HAVING, EITHER.
if something makes you unhappy or isn’t good for you and you can walk away from it, why bother telling yourself this kind of crap in the interests of making yourself feel better about that shitty, shitty situation? walk away. nothing worth having comes easy, sure, but also? nothing worth having makes you miserable for an extended period of time, either.
#this kind of rhetoric justifies abusive relationships and I just cannot deal with it #what are we telling our daughters when we tell them that ‘nothing worth having comes easy’ #right alongside ‘he’s only mean to you because he likes you’? #where does that GO? #bullshit alley that’s where
Unashamedly reblogging my personal blog, whot whot.
