6 posts tagged fat activism
I just saw some photos of a 300-pound girl posing in her underwear. I’m sure she did it with the good intention of teaching girls to love their body no matter what shape or size or color but I hope we also remember that while it’s important to be comfortable in your own skin, it’s also important to be healthy. The only way to truly love your body is to take care of it.
Weight doesn’t necessarily act as a measure of health though. The girl in the photos might be healthy, just as the size 8 girl in a photo on my dash might not. I know this is just your opinion, but I really think it’s important to separate the two.
^Going to add a little more to this.
Please note that any time I use the term ‘you’, I mean it in a broad sense, and it is not directed at the OP. I have omitted their url in an attempt to prevent them receiving hate. Anywho, here we go.
Please don’t fat shame under the guise of worrying about health. It’s really condescending. If you are not a doctor working with the person in the photo, you know nothing of their health, and therefore should not express an opinion on it.
I don’t know how many times I need to explain this. Fat does not equal unhealthy. Thin does not equal healthy. Every person and every body is different, and while extra weight may be unhealthy on one person, that does not mean it is on another.
I mean, I have a naturally large build. I’m 230 pounds, and you know what? I’m healthy. However, if my younger sister, who is naturally around 120, were to gain a lot of weight, it would be unhealthy for her. Just as it would be for me to shrink down to her size. We’re both currently healthy at our own body weights and we both feel no need to change them.
So, if you see somebody and make a judgment about their health based solely on their weight, remember that you are not their doctor and therefore do not have a say in the matter.
What the poster above me said is completely valid, of course. But it’s also important for OP to understand the following two things:
- This 300lb girl you saw committed an act of bravery, the likes of which you will never understand unless you yourself have been 300lbs. She’s spent her entire life being victim to snickers, insults, disgust, and so-called ‘concern’ of everyone around her. She’s been told her body is wrong every single day, by media, by family, by friends, by strangers. She’s been told she has no right to love her body. She’s been told she’s a victim of an ‘epidemic’, that she’ll never be happy, she’ll never be loved, she’ll never be beautiful. Somehow she ignored this enough to take the pictures you saw. Tell me, how do you think she’d feel if she saw what you said about her?
- Yes, she may be healthy. (check out this post on more for that.) But you know what? She may not be healthy. And if she’s not healthy, it’s still not your place to judge her. She could not be healthy because she has Cushings Disease or Binge Eating Disorder. She could have an underactive thyroid. She could be poor and not have access to fresh, healthful foods. She could just really like Twinkies. The point is, it DOESN’T MATTER. You have no right to dictate what it means to ‘truly love your body’. To you it means one thing. To me, it means another. To the girl you saw, it means another. And that’s okay, because guess what? She’s not forcing her decisions upon your body—so don’t force your decisions upon hers. You cannot begin to imagine how hard it is every single day to have a body that literally doesn’t ‘fit’ into the norm. You cannot imagine what it does to your MENTAL and EMOTIONAL health (which I’m sure you didn’t mean when you said ‘it’s important to be healthy’) to see people say hurtful things about your body, to hear people say ‘I can’t eat a piece of cake, I don’t want to get fat’, or ‘you’re not fat, you’re beautiful!’ (because of course you can’t be both!), or ‘ugh fat people are so lazy’.
All bodies are good bodies.
A 400lb girl in her underwear.
This is so good. This is so good that I might just permanently link it in my sidebar.