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Here’s a good way to ruin your afternoon. Go on the Internet and find any discussion thread that brings up overweight people (like this or this one). Stand back and watch as a crowd absolutely rants about how incredibly easy it is to lose weight, and how incredibly lazy you have to be to get fat. The conclusion will be that being fat is literally a moral failing and the sign of a bad, disgusting human being. It’s to the point of actual anger and violence directed toward the overweight in real life — the fat are one of the last groups people can openly hate.

But now take any of those people and try using the same logic with their weaknesses:

“You’re struggling to get by on your income? I can’t imagine how lazy a person would have to be to not be wealthy. Just go out there and make money! Duh!”

“You don’t have a girlfriend? I can’t imagine how much of an antisocial dick you have to be to not get a beautiful woman to love you. How hard is it to get off your ass and be a dynamic, sexy, personable human being?”

“You drink alcohol? Or smoke cigarettes? Or smoke pot? Why don’t you try not doing those things?”

“You suffer from depression or anxiety? Uh, have you tried not?”

Now watch as they rattle off ten thousand extenuating circumstances for their embarrassing problem (the economy is bad, women are bitches, I have an addiction) while completely rejecting all of the similar causes of obesity.

The Science:

It’s called the fundamental attribution error.

It’s a universal thought process that says when other people screw up, it’s because they’re stupid or evil. But when we screw up, it’s totally circumstantial. Like if you notice a coworker showing up to work high on mescaline, it’s because he’s an out-of-control peyote hound. But if you show up at work high on mescaline, it’s because you had a flat tire and you needed the distraction.

The process feels so obvious when explained — we simply lack information about the context in which the other person screwed up, and so we fill it in with our own. If we’ve never been fat, then we assume the fat guy feels the exact same level of hunger as we do, that his metabolism is the same, that his upbringing is the same, that the spare time and energy he can devote to exercise is the same as ours. We think that both of us faced the exact same fork in the road and only one of us chose to eat churros.

The reality is, of course, that you were on completely different roads. The assumption that everyone’s circumstances are identical is so plainly wrong as to be borderline insane, but everyone does it. Pundits and politicians alike mock the unemployed as lazy, even though their own data shows that for every five unemployed people, there is only one open job. “I don’t understand, can’t you all just become radio talk show hosts like me?”

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I just saw some photos of a 300-pound girl posing in her underwear. I’m sure she did it with the good intention of teaching girls to love their body no matter what shape or size or color but I hope we also remember that while it’s important to be comfortable in your own skin, it’s also important to be healthy. The only way to truly love your body is to take care of it.

Weight doesn’t necessarily act as a measure of health though. The girl in the photos might be healthy, just as the size 8 girl in a photo on my dash might not. I know this is just your opinion, but I really think it’s important to separate the two.

^Going to add a little more to this.

Please note that any time I use the term ‘you’, I mean it in a broad sense, and it is not directed at the OP. I have omitted their url in an attempt to prevent them receiving hate. Anywho, here we go.

Please don’t fat shame under the guise of worrying about health. It’s really condescending. If you are not a doctor working with the person in the photo, you know nothing of their health, and therefore should not express an opinion on it.

I don’t know how many times I need to explain this. Fat does not equal unhealthy. Thin does not equal healthy. Every person and every body is different, and while extra weight may be unhealthy on one person, that does not mean it is on another.

I mean, I have a naturally large build. I’m 230 pounds, and you know what? I’m healthy. However, if my younger sister, who is naturally around 120, were to gain a lot of weight, it would be unhealthy for her. Just as it would be for me to shrink down to her size. We’re both currently healthy at our own body weights and we both feel no need to change them.

So, if you see somebody and make a judgment about their health based solely on their weight, remember that you are not their doctor and therefore do not have a say in the matter.

What the poster above me said is completely valid, of course. But it’s also important for OP to understand the following two things:

  • This 300lb girl you saw committed an act of bravery, the likes of which you will never understand unless you yourself have been 300lbs. She’s spent her entire life being victim to snickers, insults, disgust, and so-called ‘concern’ of everyone around her. She’s been told her body is wrong every single day, by media, by family, by friends, by strangers. She’s been told she has no right to love her body. She’s been told she’s a victim of an ‘epidemic’, that she’ll never be happy, she’ll never be loved, she’ll never be beautiful. Somehow she ignored this enough to take the pictures you saw. Tell me, how do you think she’d feel if she saw what you said about her?
  • Yes, she may be healthy. (check out this post on more for that.) But you know what? She may not be healthy. And if she’s not healthy, it’s still not your place to judge her. She could not be healthy because she has Cushings Disease or Binge Eating Disorder. She could have an underactive thyroid. She could be poor and not have access to fresh, healthful foods. She could just really like Twinkies. The point is, it DOESN’T MATTER.  You have no right to dictate what it means to ‘truly love your body’. To you it means one thing. To me, it means another. To the girl you saw, it means another. And that’s okay, because guess what? She’s not forcing her decisions upon your body—so don’t force your decisions upon hers. You cannot begin to imagine how hard it is every single day to have a body that literally doesn’t ‘fit’ into the norm. You cannot imagine what it does to your MENTAL and EMOTIONAL health (which I’m sure you didn’t mean when you said ‘it’s important to be healthy’) to see people say hurtful things about your body, to hear people say ‘I can’t eat a piece of cake, I don’t want to get fat’, or ‘you’re not fat, you’re beautiful!’ (because of course you can’t be both!), or ‘ugh fat people are so lazy’.

All bodies are good bodies.


A 400lb girl in her underwear.

This is so good. This is so good that I might just permanently link it in my sidebar.

Why is it accepted that some people who eat a ton of food can stay thin, but not accepted that some people who eat a small amount of food can be fat?

Since thin people get diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure, why is becoming thin suggested as a cure?

Why bother using BMI as a substitute for metabolic health measures when we can easily test metabolic health measures?

Doctors treat thin people for joint pain with options other than weight loss, why don’t they give fat people those same treatments?

Why do we believe that doing unhealthy things (liquid diet, smoking, urine injections coupled with starvation, stomach amputation) will lead to a healthy body?

If the diet industry’s product actually “cured fatness”, wouldn’t their profits be going down instead of up as more and more people were permanently thin?

Isn’t it medically unethical to prescribe something without telling your patients that it works less than 5% of the time with a much greater chance at leaving you heavier and less healthy than when you started?

Why do people continue to think that shaming people will lead them to health?

Why do we accept wide variations in things like foot and hand size, nose and lip shape etc. but expect every body to fit into a very narrow proportion of height and weight?

If weight gain isn’t proven to cause diabetes, high blood pressure etc., why would weight loss be recommended as a cure?

Since weight loss ads have to carry a “results not typical” warning, shouldn’t doctors have to give patients a similar warning?

Why do people take the time to come to my blog and make death threats?

Does anyone really succeed at hating themselves healthy? If so is it worth it?

If we’ve been prescribing dieting since the 1800s and still can’t prove that it works, shouldn’t we be trying something else?

How is it possible that suggesting that healthy habits are the best chance for a healthy body is controversial?

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And yet a woman’s weight is seen by American culture as an outward manifestation of her personal worth. If she is overweight (a tricky term that I hate – over what weight?), she has failed as a woman. If she is overweight and not actively seen to be doing something about it (exercising for sixty-eight percent of her waking hours, eating three pieces of lettuce and a tomato for every meal, going to a nutritionist, going to a gym, going to a personal trainer, hiring a personal chef, getting costly and dangerous surgeries to butcher the shape of her stomach, publicly demeaning herself and her body so that the world knows she understands it’s not good enough), she has failed as a woman. If she is overweight and feels like eating a hamburger instead of a salad one day, she has failed as a woman.

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(You’ll note the original entry now links to SPARK, as it should).