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We stopped freaking out about the “Oh my god, women want to wear pants!” thing a really long time ago. Women wandered into the traditionally masculine realms of self-expression and ambition and now it’s just normal.

Not so with masculinity. It is still as rigid and well defended as ever, despite a few David Bowies or Johnny Depps in the mix. Just look at last year’s total freaking meltdown about a J. Crew catalog that carried a photo of a woman painting her young son’s toenails. Just look at the way the more delicate boys of the world are bullied by their classmates and accused of being gay. Just look at the gender imbalance in the diagnosis of Gender Identity Disorder in children, with gender disordered pre-pubescent boys outnumbering girls at a rate of up to 30 to 1. When a girl is boyish, or even claims she’d rather be a boy, it’s cute. She’s a tomboy. When a boy is girlish, wanting to wear dresses or try on some makeup, it’s a mental disorder and needs an immediate medical intervention.

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The Smart Set: Walk Like a Man - May 16, 2012 (via sociolab)

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the amount of space that white queer fat femme women take up drives me up the wall.

angstiosis:

quelola:

tierracita:

Sometimes the amount of space that white queer fat femme women take up drives me up the wall.

Like I get it, you are oppressed. No question there.

I’m not even upset at those white women I’m frustrated at the folks who make them tumblr famous when there are a lot more folks of color on here that are doing their thing and it’s all crickets.

And it’s like this overwhelming narrative of white fat women saying that they are claiming space and taking back their bodies and I just don’t get how more white folks saying hey look at me is really helping out anything that is possibly intersectional. I guess I am thinking of one blogger in particular with a large following that acts like they OWN this identity and community (referring to folks as their’s in a hierarchical manner) and gets accolades for simply posting images of them blowing snot and if a brown queer fat person did that well everyone would be like damn, gross and move on—not send accolades of presenting fat femininity as nuanced and inclusive of the “ugly.” Maybe my frustration stems in reclaiming ugly only works if you are presumed as anything but—just by being white. Hard to reclaim ugly as a brown queer fat person when you are invisible to start with and ugly by default.

A rant and an unpopular opinion but I don’t care.

Girrrrrrllll, you know that I use ugly and reclaim that shit but you just dropped some knowledge on my like I don’t even know what I’m doing anymore. Hell yeah it is hard.

Thank you for this post. And I agree with quelola — you really put into words what I have been feeling as true, but couldn’t eloquently express. Esp. at the end.

This is some important shit.

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