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inevertravelwithoutmydiary: khaleesi: jewbilant: you see this? it’s called a razor if you’re a girl, USE IT your hairy legs and armpits aren’t cute okay you’re not helping out for woman’s rights or anything YOU’RE JUST MAKING YOURSELF LOOK NASTY Or! Women have been socialized to believe that they must remove hair for a number of reasons, primarily the following: hair is historically and Biblically associated with power; we as a patriarchal culture are obsessed with keeping hair on men (facial hair, Hair Club for Men, hair plugs, whatever) and keeping it off women. You say hair on women is nasty; why is it only hair on women? Women and men have the same pubic hair. We all grow it out of our follicles for the same reason. Why is it only gross on women? women’s bodies have been considered the property of men since the dawn of time, and therefore we have been held to a standard of beauty and attractiveness that is not determined by us but is instead determined by something called the male gaze, which is erases all sexualities and genders other than cisgender heterosexual men and assumes that women are performing for it. childlike women are considered less “threatening” and more “feminine” because they are naive, quiet, and rely on ~*adult men*~ to take care of them. AND ALSO: there is a fallacy about pubic hair that it is dirty. It is not dirty. In fact, it’s there to keep your genitals cleaner. Pubic hair and armpit hair are also there to spread your pheromones around and make it easier for you to attract a mate.  all mammals have hair. We’re mammals. AND FINALLY: No one else’s body is your business. Ever. You want to shave? Go ahead! That’s totally your prerogative and if you’re more comfortable shaving, feel free. But given that pubic hair isn’t innately dirty, there’s no reason for anyone to remove it if they don’t want to. You’re not sending out some edgy, hardcore message here. You’re just reinforcing what our culture wants you to reinforce. Before you pick up that razor again, think about why you want to shave. Is it just because our culture told you to? Why’d they tell you to? What’s the point? Do what makes you comfortable and what makes you happy, and let others do the same. Living up to your url, Khaleesi. Back in the day I was like, “yo, about pubic hair,” on my personal blog, and occasionally it still gets picked up and makes the rounds and I gain some followers and also some random anon trolls and can’t figure out why. This comment made me look at this post again because of LOLs and I realized it has 30,000 notes. WTF?! The moral of the story is don’t let anybody police your goddamn body hair, and also, apparently getting mad about pubic hair makes people agree you are NOT A QUEEN, BUT A KHALEESI.

inevertravelwithoutmydiary:

khaleesi:

jewbilant:

you see this?

it’s called a razor

if you’re a girl, USE IT

your hairy legs and armpits aren’t cute okay

you’re not helping out for woman’s rights or anything

YOU’RE JUST MAKING YOURSELF LOOK NASTY

Or!

Women have been socialized to believe that they must remove hair for a number of reasons, primarily the following:

  1. hair is historically and Biblically associated with power; we as a patriarchal culture are obsessed with keeping hair on men (facial hair, Hair Club for Men, hair plugs, whatever) and keeping it off women. You say hair on women is nasty; why is it only hair on women? Women and men have the same pubic hair. We all grow it out of our follicles for the same reason. Why is it only gross on women?
  2. women’s bodies have been considered the property of men since the dawn of time, and therefore we have been held to a standard of beauty and attractiveness that is not determined by us but is instead determined by something called the male gaze, which is erases all sexualities and genders other than cisgender heterosexual men and assumes that women are performing for it.
  3. childlike women are considered less “threatening” and more “feminine” because they are naive, quiet, and rely on ~*adult men*~ to take care of them.

AND ALSO:

  1. there is a fallacy about pubic hair that it is dirty. It is not dirty. In fact, it’s there to keep your genitals cleaner. Pubic hair and armpit hair are also there to spread your pheromones around and make it easier for you to attract a mate. 
  2. all mammals have hair. We’re mammals.

AND FINALLY:

  1. No one else’s body is your business. Ever. You want to shave? Go ahead! That’s totally your prerogative and if you’re more comfortable shaving, feel free. But given that pubic hair isn’t innately dirty, there’s no reason for anyone to remove it if they don’t want to.

You’re not sending out some edgy, hardcore message here. You’re just reinforcing what our culture wants you to reinforce. Before you pick up that razor again, think about why you want to shave. Is it just because our culture told you to? Why’d they tell you to? What’s the point?

Do what makes you comfortable and what makes you happy, and let others do the same.

Living up to your url, Khaleesi.

Back in the day I was like, “yo, about pubic hair,” on my personal blog, and occasionally it still gets picked up and makes the rounds and I gain some followers and also some random anon trolls and can’t figure out why.

This comment made me look at this post again because of LOLs and I realized it has 30,000 notes. WTF?!

The moral of the story is don’t let anybody police your goddamn body hair, and also, apparently getting mad about pubic hair makes people agree you are NOT A QUEEN, BUT A KHALEESI.

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Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It’s nothing that’s going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.

If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.

If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?

A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual violence that befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.

If a woman does go back to a strange man’s hotel room at 4am, even if she only wants a coffee and conversation, she’s more or less given him the power to rape her. No jury is going to believe she went up there for anything but sex. So, don’t be surprised if a stranger reacts badly to that suggestion.

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Attention, Space Cadets: Do Not Proposition Women in the Elevator (via lipstickfeminist)

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People you will meet in discussions about sexism on the internet:

  • Mr “Welcome to the real world”. Sexism happens. Always has, always will. Might as well suck it up and deal with it. Try to change society? What are you, mad? I don’t like it either, sunshine, but just be good and don’t make a fuss.
  • Mr “Oh my god calm down it was a joke”. Everyone knows if you tack “lol” onto the end of a sentence, no one can get mad at you because you were being hilarious, and if anyone gets offended they’re being an uptight prick. You truly are the George Carlin of our time.
  • Miss Validator. “I’m a girl, and I think this is HILARIOUS. Calm down feminists!” Watch as everyone in the thread uses her as yet another reason why you are stupid and oversensitive and they are hilarious and right. May also “apologise for her gender” in a cosmic blast of internalised misogyny.
  • Mr “I refuse to believe this happens”. He would never cat call or rape and isn’t sexist at all and thinks gender roles are outmoded. Therefore, he thinks, everyone else thinks just like me too. Can’t line up women’s experiences of sexism with his own worldview, so dismisses everything they say, demanding “proof”. Sees no irony in this.
  • Mr “actually you’ve got this the wrong way round”. Silly you! This is looks, feels, smells and tastes like misogyny but is actually misandry. Don’t worry, easy mistake to make, anyone could have done it. Just don’t say I’m wrong or I’ll link you to pages explaining why you have female privilege and call you an ignorant bitch. 
  • Mr EvoPsych! Has never studied this but has skimmed some articles and therefore can explain every facet of how human behaviour works. And why it’s just best and most natural for everyone to stick to their traditional gender roles. Because that’s how we did it in 10000bc. Women and men are just different, that’s why you’re not as smart as him.
  • Mr *totally unrelated point*. Seriously dude, how did you even get here. Seems to be having a totally different discussion than the one you’re having, then whines that you aren’t addressing his points.
  • Mr “I’m so not the problem here. Hello ladies.” Ugh, photoshopping is TERRIBLE, fashion is STUPID and I tell my girlfriend not to wear makeup because makeup is GROSS. I like small boobs - take that societal norms! You don’t have to have plastic surgery anymore, girls, because I like’em small. Stop dieting! I like a woman with meat on her bones. Read Proust! I like a lady who’s well-read. I don’t understand why you would want an item of clothing that cost more than £50 - you don’t need that to attract me, madam. What do you mean, you like wearing eyeliner and don’t dress yourself solely for my benefit? I told you I don’t like high heels! STOP DOING THINGS I DON’T LIKE!

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LOL THAT’S IT, LADIESBUYINGCOMICS UNFOLLOWED

fivecentsplease:

ladiesbuyingcomics:

fivecentsplease:

SRSLY

SRSLY 

Uh? Am I not allowed to apologize? I realize, in hindsight, that I did sound judgmental. D:

lmfao gurl it is such a non-apology i can’t even 

As much as women are not at fault for looking like purely sexual beings to men, we have to be aware that there is stuff women purposefully do in order to make themselves desirable to men in a negative way. Stuff that goes beyond looking and dressing to be conventionally attractive, and that stuff can change how men treat other women.

“…we have to be aware that there is stuff women purposefully do in order to make themselves desirable to men in a negative way.” 

A+ VICTIM BLAMING. 

It doesn’t matter what I do with my own body, men can fuck right off. That sentence is blaming women for how men treat them. “If only you did xyz, men wouldn’t do abc.” 

So do I disagree with purposefully associating your boobs with your comics? Yes. Yes, I do. I’m sorry, but this photo doesn’t do women in comics many favors.

It’s ONE BOOB CREEPING IT’S WAY INTO THE FRAME. Everything is covered! What are you even going on about?

But seriously, it isn’t bad to question our behavior as women in comics. So thus, I questioned (in a very judgmental manner) whether or not this was the right thing to post on this blog. Because we, as women, cannot just run rampant through the world with no negative consequences, and not *everything* is a man’s fault.

MORE. VICTIM. BLAMING. 

YES. IT IS THE MAN’S FAULT. 

WHAT I DO OR DON’T DO WITH MY BODY IS MY BUSINESS. WHAT THIS GIRL IS WEARING/HOW SHE’S POSING WHILE SHE HOLD’S A COMIC IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. 

NOBODY would have noticed OP’s fucking breasts if you hadn’t said anything. 

There’s no right or wrong way to behave as a woman. Unless you’re spewing your internalized misogyny all over the place. 

And the tacked on “hope she read that cover to cover” bullshit, do you add that on to everyone’s pictures? Or just the ones that you think are too “provocative?”

And you’ve had other bullshit on this blog about “Sexy” cosplayers doing it for attention, as if cosplayers like this Starfire aren’t “real” comic fans, she’s just doing it for attention. 

For a blog that’s supposed to be helping the perception of women in comics fandom, you’re doing a piss poor job. 

Ladies, gentlemen, and non-binary identified people: check out my friend Merg, being a straight-up badass.

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