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“If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.

If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.

If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.

If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.

If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.

Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists.”

A Short Post on Rape Prevention (via brute-reason)

Exactly.

Be honest: You don’t give a shit about rape victims.

You don’t fucking care.

You make excuses for the rapists all the damn time.

This is about policing women’s bodies and telling them to just ‘shut up and stop complaining about your rape because you deserved it’

(via sourcedumal)

(via lucybarker)

This week in horrifying misogyny…

[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape, domestic violence, assault]

A 13-year-old girl is raped by two 18-year-old football players, is then bullied mercilessly for being a “ho” and a “snitch.” 

SendGrid developer evangelist Adria Richards tweets a picture of a PlayHaven developer calling him out on making sexist jokes; PlayHaven fires the developer; SendGrid is subject to a huge DDOS attack and Richards is attacked with rape and death threats; SendGrid fires Adria Richards. Their response (why they fired her) is total bullshit — I could write an entire goddamn book on why public shaming of sexism is crucial in dismantling sexist culture, particularly in fields where outright misogyny is basically standard.

Marissa Alexander, after being repeatedly beaten by her husband, fires a warning shot into the ceiling during an episode of abuse. No one is hurt. She’s facing 20 years in prison, despite the “Stand Your Ground” law.

“It’s hard to wrap my head around the fact that a billion women have been raped or beaten, just the enormity of that. When I was in college, I’d heard that one in four women would be raped, and I thought, God, that means I must know someone who was raped. Sure enough, I found out a week later that a friend had been. A billion is too big because one is too big.”

Anne Hathaway on why she supports One BIllion Rising (in Glamour of all places), and simultaneously exacerbating my mega-crush on her

(MAJOR RAPE TW) PLEASE READ»

shorm:

tylerfucklin:

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about2000milesaway:

I, like many others, am only now learning of the horrific crime(s) in Steubinville, Ohio.

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“In August of 2012, a 16 year old girl incurred the wrath of her ex-boyfriend and he initiated a revenge that resulted in her being unconscious, dragged from party to party, and being stripped, subject to rape, forced oral copulation, sodomy and being urinated on by multiple people. A 12 minute video was recorded and posted via social media. The police have since “lost” this video. (Please note that this pathetic excuse for a man now attends Ohio State University on a scholarship.)
 

During this assault, witnesses made light of the incident and posted pictures to instagram, and joked, along with “play by play” accounts on twitter. One such example was “No one sleeps through a wang in the butt.” A small number of tweets have been preserved in various news articles, but there were a great deal more than is currently being shown.
 

The girl who originally tried to preserve the evidence in screenshots has been sued for defamation and her posted evidence has since been taken down. Three others are also being sued for defamation.
 

Recently, there was a hearing for two teen athletes, where they are being held, without bail, for rape, though the kidnapping charges have been dropped. Overwhelming community support showed up, including school officials, were in the courtroom FOR THE RAPISTS. This is where it gets bad.
 

The coach, the volunteer coach, and many people in the community are blaming gang rape of an unconscious girl on the girl, herself. No one is coming forward to help law enforcement. The local prosecutor’s son is on the football team.
 

This is not an isolated incident. More girls have come forward, including a 14 year old girl. Even worse, one of the official’s email accounts has a number of pictures of young girls in various compromising positions, demonstrating that this has happened many times before and is accepted within this community.
 

Worse, the people who did this have been referring to themselves as “RAPE CREW.”
 

There are multiple conflicts of interest in their local justice system and they have paid out a number of settlements for police misconduct. Corruption is rampant as a result of these conflicts of interest, and many people in local government, along with school officials have been making a concerted effort to cover this up.” (distonanced)


THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR SEXUAL VIOLENCE.

I’ve been watching interviews and reports on the rapes occurring in New Delhi with disgust, and now I find that a town in the United States has the SAME mindset - that it was the woman’s fault - that the men shouldn’t be dishonored or punished for what they have done…


And…

I just quit.  I am sickened.

If you want more in-depth information, please visit:

http://localleaks.blogs.ru/2013/01/01/steubenvillefiles/

Facts posted have been cross checked by anonymous locals.

SIGN THE PETITION to have everyone involved by processed by juvenile court so real justice can be had:

https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/make-all-involved-rape-steubenville-scandal-be-pushed-out-juvenile-court-so-there-can-be-real/MJ4rrCXM 

This needs more damn notes.

I know we’ve been having a good time on the dash, but I NEED like everyone to boost the hell out of this, please?

I really don’t understand why more people aren’t angry about this. This is a working link: sign petition

SIGNAL BOOSTING AGAIN. THE WORKING LINK TO THE PETITION HAS BEEN ADDED. SIGN IT. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A US CITIZEN, JUST LEAVE THE ZIP CODE BLANK.

Imma leave the room before I punch a hole through the computer screen.

I read the whole anon file on this case (and it was truly sickening) but this is the first time I’ve seen this petition going around. I’m definitely signing it and simply raising awareness of this absolutely disgusting and heinous case!

i didn’t even finish the article before i felt sick to my stomach.

Welp, maybe I don’t need breakfast anymore. Jesus fuck.

[tw: rape]

thetaylordetroye:

If you’re voting for Romney I fully expect you to be able to go up to a woman who became pregnant as a result of rape, look her in the eye, and not only tell her that she has no choice but to carry the child to term but also that her rapist gets father’s rights

I fully expect you to be able to go up to your one gay friend, look him in the eye, and tell him you think he should never be able to get married to the person he loves

I fully expect you to go up to your one black friend, look her in the eye, and tell her that you think she shouldn’t be allowed to vote because there have been (A VERY SMALL NUMBER OF) instances of voter fraud in the past

Cause that’s what you’re supporting

(via lucybarker)

“The views expressed were offensive. Rape is rape. And the idea that we should be parsing and qualifying and slicing what types of rape we are talking about doesn’t make sense to the American people and certainly doesn’t make sense to me. So what I think these comments do underscore is why we shouldn’t have a bunch of politicians, a majority of whom are men, making health care decisions on behalf of women.”

President Obama in a surprise press conference today, speaking about Todd Akin’s deplorable “legitimate rape” statement.

I’m sorry, I couldn’t hear you over the sound of how hard I’m voting Obama.

a letter to each of you.

projectunbreakable:

I’m sure you’ve seen it in the news today. The headlines are everywhere and my Twitter feed is decorated with rants from various people I follow: a man running for senate named Todd Akin used the term “legitimate rape” when asked about abortion legality. He has also used a modifier in the past, stating the phrase “forcible rape”. It is clear that the reality of “rape is rape” is lost on him.

Stepping away from the abortion debate, I wanted to address this because I know how upsetting it was to read that headline at first. My heart sunk. For ten seconds, I felt a mixture of anger and sadness and frustration, as if all of the work I put into this topic just continues to fade into the ignorance of others. It’s easy to settle into the feeling of never getting anywhere if you let yourself stay that way. But I’m not like that, and I don’t want anyone else to feel that way either. Maybe I’m hopelessly optimistic. But from my experience, that’s the only way I know how to try to change the world.

So this letter is for you, whoever you are. The survivor. The sister or brother or mother or father or friend of a survivor. The activist. The person who tirelessly answers the sexual assault hotline. The shelter volunteer. The police officer, the lawyer, the judge. The person who simply feels passionate about this. Although it may seem like the opposite, Mr. Akin’s words aren’t actually setting us back. In fact, with each ignorant comment made by someone, and each time it gets into the media outlets, the topic of rape and sexual assault is becoming less and less of a taboo. For every person like Mr. Akin who says something along those lines, there are thousands - millions - of others crying in outrage. And there are even more who are finally realizing the gravity of the issue.

We are getting there. The silence is ending. Please don’t lose hope.

With love, gratitude, and optimism,

Grace

(via neil-gaiman)

khaleesi: Ah, Cosmo. You tried so hard and got so far, but in the end you’re still incredibly goddamn victim blame-y. (Taken with Instagram) I’m just at the point where if you want to talk about rape culture and your opinion is anything other than “Men should shut up and listen to survivors” or “society needs to teach ‘don’t rape’ instead of ‘don’t get raped’” it’s not an opinion that needs to be shared.

khaleesi:

Ah, Cosmo. You tried so hard and got so far, but in the end you’re still incredibly goddamn victim blame-y. (Taken with Instagram)

I’m just at the point where if you want to talk about rape culture and your opinion is anything other than “Men should shut up and listen to survivors” or “society needs to teach ‘don’t rape’ instead of ‘don’t get raped’” it’s not an opinion that needs to be shared.