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Big Fat List of Myth-Defying Health Resources

redefiningbodyimage:

This is Redefining Body Image’s go-to list of resources, articles, research, videos, etc. providing facts and information regarding health and body image, especially dedicated to debunking the everyone’s favorite myth that fat = unhealthy.

If I referred you to this page and this way of thinking about fat and fat health is new to you, I encourage you to have an open mind.

If you have something to add, please submit! The more this list grows, the more ammo we have to back us up in our fight against the body positive nay-sayers.

Let the facts come marching in.

Fat Acceptance/Size Discrimination Related Resources (WIP)

Body Positivity Resources (WIP)

Thank you.

Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

bookishboi:

  1. Consent is Key - This is an obvious point for those of you who give a shit about your partners. Remember that consent does not imply permanence though. Just because someone has given you prior consent to your engagement does not mean that they may not change their mind during sex. Bottom line, be sure to check in with your partner intermittently and ensure that this is still what they want.
  2. If you don’t know, Ask! - Be it a hook-up, one night stand, or a reoccurring engagement with someone, ask them about what they like to happen during sex. Remember though: Not everyone is going to have enough experience to know what they like, so ask them what they’d like to try. You are touching their body on their terms, not yours. Never forget that. They have the sole authority on what happens to their bodies (See: Consent). I know this can be awkward and clumsy on occasion - I sympathize. However, talking about things you’d like to do and experience can be foreplay, and that’s an essential part!
  3. Triggers - Ask them about any triggers or any areas on their bodies/any sexual acts that they want you to avoid. Sex should be fun, playful and liberating. If you can help it, you want to make sure that your partner has the most enjoyable experience possible.
  4. Status - Is there anything more invasive feeling than having someone ask about your status? Maybe you want to avoid addressing the stigma that comes with those conversations, but having a recent report on your  status will come in handy. Knowledge is power! If you are someone who does have a STI, ensure you know enough to educate your partner on what that means. The more you know, the less scary it is!

Bottom line, communication is your strongest tool. 

Feel free to add on. :]

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13 Horror Movies Without Sexual Violence»

pluralisms:

wereslonna:

villainsgoleft:

mindovermatterzine:

yesysabella:

crepusculars:

Joey Comeau, writer of A Softer World and horror movie enthusiast,has compiled a list of great horror movies that don’t depict sexual violence. The list also denotes which of the films are gory, which are foreign language/subtitled, and which are “stupid but awesome anyway.”

As someone who is very sensitive to the content of films in general, especially when they contain scenes of rape or sexual assault, I really appreciate Comeau putting together a list like this.

Go check it out! Halloween is just around the corner!

Just one more reason i am in love with this man. 

Continuing in the theme of enjoying a trigger-free Halloween: an excellent resource!

fantastic!

what a good list!!

into this list altho that one movie w/ the woman trying to cut out the other woman’s fetus is still a little too real for me re: sexual violence/sexualized violence/violence against women

Haven’t seen Inside so can’t say, but really glad this list was made.

fattyforever: empyrealblue: mohandasgandhi: spittingonhegel: 10 Drink Spike Detector Kits and Box The 2 Love My Lips Drink Spike Detector identifies the presence GHB (gamma-hydroxyl-butyrate), and ketamine (powerful sedative). Each testing strip contains two square testing pads which change colour when they come into contact with these drugs. The pads only change colour when there is enough drug to have an effect on your health and welfare. [source] Sad that this has to exist but I might as well buy some since this has become a thing I need to constantly and actively watch out for. I didn’t know these existed until now. It’s really important to protect yourselves. One can never be too careful when it comes to this stuff and unfortunately, the use of date rape drugs is extremely common. Any precautionary measure you can take to protect yourself is worth it. This is actually a great idea. I’m surprised this hasn’t been a thing for a while now. It really should be. Wow these are great. I would like to have some of my own.

fattyforever:

empyrealblue:

mohandasgandhi:

spittingonhegel:

10 Drink Spike Detector Kits and Box

The 2 Love My Lips Drink Spike Detector identifies the presence GHB (gamma-hydroxyl-butyrate), and ketamine (powerful sedative). Each testing strip contains two square testing pads which change colour when they come into contact with these drugs. The pads only change colour when there is enough drug to have an effect on your health and welfare.

[source]

Sad that this has to exist but I might as well buy some since this has become a thing I need to constantly and actively watch out for.

I didn’t know these existed until now. It’s really important to protect yourselves. One can never be too careful when it comes to this stuff and unfortunately, the use of date rape drugs is extremely common. Any precautionary measure you can take to protect yourself is worth it.

This is actually a great idea. I’m surprised this hasn’t been a thing for a while now. It really should be.

Wow these are great. I would like to have some of my own.

Big Fat List of Myth-Defying Health Resources

redefiningbodyimage:

redefiningbodyimage:

This is Redefining Body Image’s go-to list of resources, articles, research, videos, etc. providing facts and information regarding health and body image, especially dedicated to debunking the everyone’s favorite myth that fat = unhealthy.

If I referred you to this page and this way of thinking about fat and fat health is new to you, I encourage you to have an open mind.

If you have something to add, please submit! The more this list grows, the more ammo we have to back us up in our fight against the body positive nay-sayers.

Let the facts come marching in.

And that’s where I’m leaving it for now, but not forever!

Thank you.

Hello all! Reblogging this as I’ve added a few links and wanted to know if any of you knew of some sources I should definitely be adding to this list. Drop me a line :)

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fsufeminist:

super-eklectic1:

The Sexual Objectification Checklist

isaywesay:

1. Does the image show only part(s) of a sexualized person’s body?

BMW

2. Does the image present a sexualized person as a stand-in for an object?


Four Loko

3. Does the image show sexualized persons as interchangeable? 

Mercedes Benz

4. Does the image affirm the idea of violating the bodily integrity of a sexualized person who can’t consent?

Duncan Quinn

5. Does the image suggest that sexual availability is the defining characteristic of the person? 

American Apparel

6. Does the image show a sexualized person as a commodity that can be bought and sold?

Red Tape Shoes

Real talk: seeing images like this really upset me. It pisses me off that in a so-called “free” and “equal” culture, we’re still seen as objects, commodities to sell products. My body is a person, a sentient being with emotions and thoughts, NOT your object.

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therotund:

deluxvivens:

this-is-not-native:

apihtawikosisan:

Forget all that fake Etsy shit, the crappy Forever 21 clothes and all that other ‘native american inspired’ bullshit.

If you MUST have Native American style?  Get it for real.

Beyond Buckskin has a boutique featuring all native designers.  Haute couture to affordable and one-of-a-kind street wear items, as well as jewellery and accessories galore.

Additional authentic on-line stores can be found here.  Stop supporting the exploitation of our cultures which is running rampant right now via all of those knock-off items being massed produced overseas by people who have absolutely no connection (or clue) to Native American cultures.

I think a lot of people hear “We’re mad that you find our cultures beautiful” when what we’re really saying is, “We’re mad that your idea of showing appreciation for our cultures is buying mass produced shit from Urban Outfitters.” Nobody’s saying you can’t enjoy indigenous fashions and incorporate them into your wardrobe, but don’t think you’re doing us any favors unless you’re supporting a native artisan.

This. And I really want to know why it is so hard for these people to consider buyig from native artisans to begin with.

Oh, shit, this dress:

http://beyondbuckskinboutique.bigcartel.com/product/gunmetal-dress

EPIC SELF CARE POST

selfsamewoman:

youarenotyou:

Self care according to the senses:

Scent. Burn scented candles or incense. Pick some fresh flowers or herbs for your home (basil = heaven). Fry onions or garlic if it’s your thing (it’s definitely mine). If you can afford to, buy some essential oils that make you feel relaxed. You can wear them as perfume or dilute them with water and put into a spray bottle for your bed sheets. Bake cookies. Sit in a local coffee shop. Buy or make some fancy scented soap or lotion and use it liberally.

Touch. Are there textures that you find soothing? Collect them and keep them somewhere. Cuddle with a stuffed animal, a pillow, or a person. Go out in the grass with bare feet. Or to the beach (I love sand between my toes). Have a long, soothing bath or shower. Masturbate. Finger paint with your body as the canvas.

Sound. Go to the beach, or download/buy a cd of relaxing sounds like ocean waves (my favorite). Discover new music. Make a mix cd. Blast your favorite music. Sing along. Play an instrument.

Sight. Make an inspiration board. Redecorate your space. Find quotes that are the most helpful/inspirational to you and put them in places you’ll see them (ie. your walls). Go to a museum, zoo, aquarium, or another place that is visually stimulating. Change the lighting in your home/room (sometimes just covering a lampshade in a sheer colored fabric is enough) - this can make a huge impact on mood.

Taste. Try a new recipe or cook something familiar and comforting. Eat your favorite food. Eat juicy fresh fruit. Drink your favorite tea. Go to a restaurant, with a friend or by yourself (if you can), either a new one or your favorite one.

Self care activities:

Dance. In public or alone. Naked or clothed. Learn the dance moves from your favorite music videos or movies.

Write. Write yourself a letter (to your future self, past self, or for times of distress). Write someone else a letter. Write fiction or nonfiction. Write about something fun or ridiculous that happened to you, or something you wish would happen to you. Write erotica. Write poetry. Write an essay or a speech. Write a blog post or make a zine. Write down a list of things you like about yourself, and/or things that you’re good at.

Talk. Talk to your pet. Call a friend. Hang out with someone. Talk to a stranger. Go to a social event by yourself. Practice daily affirmations.

Exercise. Hula hoop. Go for a run, a hike, or a long bike ride. Go swimming or use your favorite equipment at the gym. Stretch. Practice yoga or pilates. Take an exercise class.

Go outside. Fresh air can do wonders. Walk around a familiar space, or explore a new one. Sit or lie in a park with a book or your imagination. Watch clouds or animals or other people. Blow bubbles or fly a kite. Go to a park with swings, and swing. Sunbathe. Tend to a garden or start one.

Learn. A new skill or new language. Read something that’s challenging. Watch a nature documentary.

Relax. Sleep. Sleep in. Stay in bed all day if you want/need to. Call out of work. Recognize the ways you’ve been pressuring yourself and try to let go. Do breathing exercises. Meditate.

Laugh. Watch a funny TV show or movie, or read a funny book. Tell jokes or learn new ones. Make funny faces at yourself in the mirror. Be goofy. Try laughter yoga.

Fun. Make travel plans. Play games, by yourself or with other people. Play with a pet, or go to an animal shelter and play with animals there. Go shopping, window or real. Play a sport. Dress up in clothes that make you feel fancy.

Beauty rituals. Get a haircut or do it yourself. Trim your bangs. Dye your hair. Paint your nails. Get a massage, pedicure, or other spa treatments if you have the money. Play with make up. Get a free makeover.

Use your hands. If you’re into it: knit, sew, embroider, cross stitch, draw, paint, take pictures. Weave, collage, reupholster a piece of furniture, build something, work on your car/bike, plant trees, go foraging.

Most importantly, GO EASY ON YOURSELF! Recognize your limitations and don’t overdo it. Don’t get too down on yourself for not getting shit done. Try to eliminate thoughts revolving around a need to be “productive”. If you need medication, please take it and realize there’s nothing wrong or “weak” about doing so. Recognize your needs and articulate them, especially when it comes to relationships with others. Realize there’s nothing wrong with being “selfish”. Cry when you need to. Identify & eliminate toxic people and behaviors from your life. Remember, you’re allowed to say no, and you deserve love too. Taking care of yourself and putting yourself first in a capitalist system is a form of resistance.

Reblogging this because the timing is appropriate.

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Stores That Cater To Plus Size Women

bustygirlcomics:

bigbeautifulblackgirls:

  1. Torrid
  2. Asos Curve 
  3. Alloy
  4. Old Navy
  5. eShakti
  6. Forever 21+
  7. Wet Seal Plus
  8. Lane Bryant
  9. Fashion Bug
  10. Loop 18
  11. ModCloth
  12. Avenue
  13. One Stop Plus
  14. Jessica London
  15. Ashley Stewart
  16. Macy’s Plus
  17. Kiyonna
  18. Alight
  19. Roamans
  20. Deb Plus
  21. b & lu
  22. Dorothy Perkins
  23. Primark
  24. Evans
  25. City Chic
  26. Domino Dollhouse
  27. Dots
  28. Sealed With A Kiss Designs
  29. Ross
  30. TJ Maxx
  31. Marshalls
  32. Sears Plus
  33. Target Plus
  34. KMart Plus
  35. Fashion to Figure
  36. Simply Be
  37. eVogues

I know you don’t have to be plus-size to be busty but if you’re having trouble finding a shirt, try looking at these stores and bringing it to a tailor to bring the waist in.