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This week in horrifying misogyny…

[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape, domestic violence, assault]

A 13-year-old girl is raped by two 18-year-old football players, is then bullied mercilessly for being a “ho” and a “snitch.” 

SendGrid developer evangelist Adria Richards tweets a picture of a PlayHaven developer calling him out on making sexist jokes; PlayHaven fires the developer; SendGrid is subject to a huge DDOS attack and Richards is attacked with rape and death threats; SendGrid fires Adria Richards. Their response (why they fired her) is total bullshit — I could write an entire goddamn book on why public shaming of sexism is crucial in dismantling sexist culture, particularly in fields where outright misogyny is basically standard.

Marissa Alexander, after being repeatedly beaten by her husband, fires a warning shot into the ceiling during an episode of abuse. No one is hurt. She’s facing 20 years in prison, despite the “Stand Your Ground” law.

[TW: Rape threats, fat hatred] People are REAL MAD about not being assholes to nine-year-olds.

Apparently, suggesting one doesn’t use body-negative language in the hopes of avoiding giving a bunch of adolescent girls a body image complex is enough to inspire half a dozen messages (and like fifty reblogs with pretty terrible commentary) from people who are convinced that

  1. unless we tell these girls they shouldn’t be fat as often as we can, they’ll NEVER LEARN!! that they shouldn’t be fat
  2. I, as a person who doesn’t necessarily think inspiring body image complexes in adolescent girls is an admirable goal, am a “fat cunt”
  3. I probably have diabetes/probably hate myself/should definitely hate myself/am a virgin/hate men/will definitely die alone unless I get raped first (one message actually says that — I’m not clear on how my dying alone will be affected by my being raped; like, is my rapist then supposed to claim me as his wife? but all right)

I won’t be publishing any of these or any subsequent troll messages, but I feel it’s important that anyone who would like to leave one be reminded that

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I drink milk to give myself the runs, starve myself for weeks and then binge on ice cream, and feel horrible about food. But I'm fat so I don't have an ED! Thanks anon, I now know that if I had a proper ED I'd be thin. Fuck trying to resolve my relationship wrt food, I'm obviously making excuses. I mean, that's why no doctors believe me in the first place! (No but seriously how the hell do I heal when NO ONE BELIEVES ME?)

Asked by
Anonymous

I believe you.

These people will, too, if you need someone to talk to. I’ve used them before. It helps — feels like starting to heal.

What you described in your article isn't an eating disorder, it's just a shitty relationship with food. If you had an eating disorder you'd actually lose weight. Get some more therapy and exercise, and quit bitching.

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Anonymous

TRIGGER WARNING: EATING DISORDERS

Okay, not only are you really really wrong, but it’s super fucking dangerous for you to go around saying this kind of thing to people — and anonymously, no less. You realize you could hurt someone, right? Words have power. You could very easily trigger an individual with an eating disorder back into incredibly self-harmful behavior by minimizing and disdaining their experiences. Your ignorance is not an excuse for cruelty, period, and your ignorance is not a barrier between your actions and the very real consequences they could have for others.

What is Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (EDNOS)?

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual – 4th Edition (DSM-IV) recognizes two distinct eating disorder types, anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. If a person is struggling with eating disorder thoughts, feelings or behaviors, but does not have all the symptoms of anorexia or bulimia, that person may be diagnosed with eating disorder not otherwise specified (EDNOS). The following section lists examples of how an individual may have a profound eating problem and not have anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa.

  • A female patient could meet all of the diagnostic criteria for anorexia nervosa except she is still having her periods
  • A person could meet all of the diagnostic criteria for anorexia nervosa are met except that, despite significant weight loss the individual’s current weight is in the normal range.
  • A person could meet all of the diagnostic criteria for bulimia nervosa are met except that the binge eating and inappropriate compensatory mechanisms occur at a frequency of less than twice a week or for duration of less than 3 months.
  • The person could use inappropriate compensatory behavior by an individual of normal body weight after eating small amounts of food (e.g., self-induced vomiting after the consumption of two cookies). This variant is often called purging disorder.
  • The person could repeatedly chewing and spitting out, but not swallowing, large amounts of food.
  • Binge-eating disorder is also officially an EDNOS category (see separate fact sheet for BED): recurrent episodes of binge eating in the absence if the regular use of inappropriate compensatory behaviors characteristic of bulimia nervosa.

The examples provided above illustrate the variety of ways in which disordered eating can look when a person has EDNOS, but this list of examples does not provide a complete picture of the many different ways that eating disorder symptoms can occur. 

I strongly encourage you to read up on what you’re talking about before you tell anyone else to “quit bitching.”

so I answered this question on my personal blog, but it absolutely belongs here. (tw: discussion of ED, rape, rape culture, depression/mental illness, and hate speech) well anon, I give a shit! and if you care about other -isms, you probably should too. fat people (or really, people of any body type outside the “norm” as determined by the media — intersectionality, yo) are stigmatized to the point where: hate speech and flat-out nastiness toward fat people is normalized, which is dehumanizing. people feel entitled to tell fat people they shouldn’t eat something, or should eat less, or should exercise more, or that what they’re wearing isn’t flattering, and all manner of things that are actually pretty inexcusable! moreover, people feel entitled to say (and do say, all the time) that fat people are disgusting, lazy, gluttonous, stupid, and/or unhygienic, which is simply untrue. and these things are legitimized and standardized by our culture. this is all in the name of Being Concerned About Their Health but that’s actually a load of crap — someone else’s health isn’t your business, you can’t tell if someone is healthy if you’re looking at them, and unhealthy people deserve just as much respect and dignity as healthy people regardless. fat people, especially fat people who are not cis men, who are sexual assault survivors are significantly less likely to report their assault, because they’re told they’re wildly undesirable pretty much every day. in a culture where rape is misrepresented as a crime of passion or misunderstanding, fat people are scoffed at for reporting. who’d want to fuck a fat girl, after all?  fat people are encouraged in eating disorders and eating disordered behavior. generally, most people see any effort fat people make to lose weight as a good thing, even if those behaviors would cause serious alarm if performed by a thin person. I can speak firsthand about this - my EDNOS went undiagnosed for years because most of my doctors thought that any effort for me to lose weight was a good effort, even if it meant I was hurting myself. the other night I was watching TV and a diet advertisement came on for a product that had the tagline “Eating less never looked so beautiful.” seriously, what the hell? speaking of, fat people are routinely misdiagnosed and mistreated by the medical community. I once went in to my university’s gyno to get a yeast infection addressed, and was told that I’d developed it because my thighs touched.* Melissa McEwan of Shakesville says it better than I ever could: No, there is not a documented epidemic of brutal murders of fat people for being fat, but there is a documented epidemic of failure to provide life-saving healthcare: Google will easily help you find stories of fat people who died while emergency crews laughed at their weight and appearance, of fat people who were told they should lose weight to fix problems actually caused by blood clots, cancer, internal injuries, infections, and myriad other problems that later killed them, because their doctors couldn’t see past their fat to properly treat them.  Google will also easily help you find stories of medical equipment that cannot accommodate fat bodies, of anesthetists who accidentally kill fat people in surgery, of doctors who prescribe wrong doses for fat bodies, of drug trials that make no attempt to include fat patients.  Google will also easily help you find stories of fat people who did not seek life-saving healthcare because they had been so viciously fat-shamed by doctors their whole lives that they had given up hope of finding sensitive and caring providers who would treat them. Fat people die because of fat hatred ALL THE TIME. fat people are subject to a myriad of microaggressions that, in aggregate, signal to them that they are not worthy of “normal” society. plus-sized clothing is harder to find and often costs more and is not as well-made. safety equipment doesn’t fit fat people. fat people are expected to constantly apologize for themselves and be actively looking to lose weight, and therefore are not allowed to be happy or to like themselves (and fat people who are happy, who like themselves, or who feel sexy are relentlessly ridiculed and cut down for it). articles about the “obesity epidemic” are accompanied by photos of fat people where their heads are cropped off, which is a standard way of objectifying and dehumanizing. “fat” has become shorthand for “lazy, gluttonous, stupid, unhygienic, disgusting.” I could go on, but the blog This Is Thin Privilege has many other examples. overweight teenage girls are much more likely than their average-weight peers to be depressed, suicidal, or to commit self-harm. this is because they’re only offered images of happy thin people and one-dimensional, unhappy fat people. when all you see in the media are people who look like you that hate themselves, or people who used to look like you to whom the best thing in their lives was no longer looking like you, you don’t expect happiness. and not for nothing, but people are making a LOT of money off of this “obesity epidemic” crap and keeping people from focusing on the actual problems behind said “epidemic.” the people who benefit from keeping everyone scared of being fat? the billion-dollar diet/weight-loss industry, plus the companies who get a LOT of money from government food subsidies for corn, in particular. they want people at large to avoid thinking critically about why people in America are steadily gaining weight, because the answers will lose them a lot of money. classism, wage gaps, and poverty play a huge role — if you’re a single parent working multiple jobs, you don’t have a lot of time or money to prepare fresh meals all the time, and there is a correlation between poverty and weight. ever heard of a food desert? google that sucker, anon. shit’s whack. you should give a shit about fatphobia because fatphobia is mad intersectional (body politics apply to a lot, a lot, a lot of people, not just fat people) and because it’s mostly manufactured to keep you thinking about “actually important things.” not for nothing, but if you’re worried about the quality of life of oppressed people, you should also worry about the fact that 1 out of 10 parents would abort a child if it was genetically likely to be fat** and 1 out of 3 people would rather walk away from their marriage than be fat *** apparently, fat is the most terrifying thing you could possibly be in American culture. and how fucked up is that? * yeast infections do not happen because your thighs touch.** sauce*** even more sauce

so I answered this question on my personal blog, but it absolutely belongs here.

(tw: discussion of ED, rape, rape culture, depression/mental illness, and hate speech)

well anon, I give a shit! and if you care about other -isms, you probably should too. fat people (or really, people of any body type outside the “norm” as determined by the media — intersectionality, yo) are stigmatized to the point where:

hate speech and flat-out nastiness toward fat people is normalized, which is dehumanizing. people feel entitled to tell fat people they shouldn’t eat something, or should eat less, or should exercise more, or that what they’re wearing isn’t flattering, and all manner of things that are actually pretty inexcusable! moreover, people feel entitled to say (and do say, all the time) that fat people are disgusting, lazy, gluttonous, stupid, and/or unhygienic, which is simply untrue. and these things are legitimized and standardized by our culture. this is all in the name of Being Concerned About Their Health but that’s actually a load of crap — someone else’s health isn’t your business, you can’t tell if someone is healthy if you’re looking at them, and unhealthy people deserve just as much respect and dignity as healthy people regardless.

fat people, especially fat people who are not cis men, who are sexual assault survivors are significantly less likely to report their assault, because they’re told they’re wildly undesirable pretty much every day. in a culture where rape is misrepresented as a crime of passion or misunderstanding, fat people are scoffed at for reporting. who’d want to fuck a fat girl, after all? 

fat people are encouraged in eating disorders and eating disordered behavior. generally, most people see any effort fat people make to lose weight as a good thing, even if those behaviors would cause serious alarm if performed by a thin person. I can speak firsthand about this - my EDNOS went undiagnosed for years because most of my doctors thought that any effort for me to lose weight was a good effort, even if it meant I was hurting myself. the other night I was watching TV and a diet advertisement came on for a product that had the tagline “Eating less never looked so beautiful.” seriously, what the hell?

speaking of, fat people are routinely misdiagnosed and mistreated by the medical community. I once went in to my university’s gyno to get a yeast infection addressed, and was told that I’d developed it because my thighs touched.* Melissa McEwan of Shakesville says it better than I ever could:

No, there is not a documented epidemic of brutal murders of fat people for being fat, but there is a documented epidemic of failure to provide life-saving healthcare: Google will easily help you find stories of fat people who died while emergency crews laughed at their weight and appearance, of fat people who were told they should lose weight to fix problems actually caused by blood clots, cancer, internal injuries, infections, and myriad other problems that later killed them, because their doctors couldn’t see past their fat to properly treat them.  Google will also easily help you find stories of medical equipment that cannot accommodate fat bodies, of anesthetists who accidentally kill fat people in surgery, of doctors who prescribe wrong doses for fat bodies, of drug trials that make no attempt to include fat patients.  Google will also easily help you find stories of fat people who did not seek life-saving healthcare because they had been so viciously fat-shamed by doctors their whole lives that they had given up hope of finding sensitive and caring providers who would treat them.

Fat people die because of fat hatred ALL THE TIME.

fat people are subject to a myriad of microaggressions that, in aggregate, signal to them that they are not worthy of “normal” society. plus-sized clothing is harder to find and often costs more and is not as well-made. safety equipment doesn’t fit fat people. fat people are expected to constantly apologize for themselves and be actively looking to lose weight, and therefore are not allowed to be happy or to like themselves (and fat people who are happy, who like themselves, or who feel sexy are relentlessly ridiculed and cut down for it). articles about the “obesity epidemic” are accompanied by photos of fat people where their heads are cropped off, which is a standard way of objectifying and dehumanizing. “fat” has become shorthand for “lazy, gluttonous, stupid, unhygienic, disgusting.” I could go on, but the blog This Is Thin Privilege has many other examples.

overweight teenage girls are much more likely than their average-weight peers to be depressed, suicidal, or to commit self-harm. this is because they’re only offered images of happy thin people and one-dimensional, unhappy fat people. when all you see in the media are people who look like you that hate themselves, or people who used to look like you to whom the best thing in their lives was no longer looking like you, you don’t expect happiness.

and not for nothing, but people are making a LOT of money off of this “obesity epidemic” crap and keeping people from focusing on the actual problems behind said “epidemic.” the people who benefit from keeping everyone scared of being fat? the billion-dollar diet/weight-loss industry, plus the companies who get a LOT of money from government food subsidies for corn, in particular. they want people at large to avoid thinking critically about why people in America are steadily gaining weight, because the answers will lose them a lot of money. classism, wage gaps, and poverty play a huge role — if you’re a single parent working multiple jobs, you don’t have a lot of time or money to prepare fresh meals all the time, and there is a correlation between poverty and weight. ever heard of a food desert? google that sucker, anon. shit’s whack.

you should give a shit about fatphobia because fatphobia is mad intersectional (body politics apply to a lot, a lot, a lot of people, not just fat people) and because it’s mostly manufactured to keep you thinking about “actually important things.”

not for nothing, but if you’re worried about the quality of life of oppressed people, you should also worry about the fact that 1 out of 10 parents would abort a child if it was genetically likely to be fat** and 1 out of 3 people would rather walk away from their marriage than be fat ***

apparently, fat is the most terrifying thing you could possibly be in American culture. and how fucked up is that?

* yeast infections do not happen because your thighs touch.
** sauce
*** even more sauce

tw: weight talk mini-vent, eating disorders, weight loss

redefiningbodyimage:

I’ve gained another 6 pounds this year. My head hurts too much right now to articulate how I feel about it. I hate that I can’t keep myself from looking at the scale when they weigh me at the doctor’s office, but at least my doc isn’t a fat-shaming butthead. GODDAMNIT WHY DO SCALES EXIST.

Empathy/solidarity internet fist bump. I think this is a pretty good moment for some story-swappin’.

I get anxious even looking at a scale, even one that I have no intention of climbing on. My mother has one in her bathroom — always has, probably always will — and I can’t take a shower in her house without thinking “I should weigh myself,” which is something I did every day for most of high school, and something that inevitably triggers my eating disordered behavior, then and now.

It’s fucking TOUGH. Like, my housemate brought one to the apartment we rent together, and she had it out in the bathroom for like a day and not only myself but another of my housemates were really, really unhappy with it being there. It feels to me like a constant reminder of the pressure that a number is supposed to define us as women and that we, as fat women, fail every time. 

They’re tools of shame in the worst way, because never have I gotten on a scale and been like, “Oh, damn, I’ve suddenly lost 35lbs and had no idea, guess I’d better get to a doctor!” That’s the reason they’re supposed to exist, right? In case you go to the doctor and you’ve had a dramatic weight fluctuation, as if you wouldn’t otherwise notice? But fun fact! I had dramatic weight fluctuations in high school, when I was studiously ignoring that a medication I’d been put on to treat my Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome was essentially forcing me to purge one or twice a day. I would lose 3-5lbs a week (mind you, healthy weight loss is 1-2lbs, tops) and my doctor never batted an eye. She as like, “Oh, you’re losing weight! Great!” Everyone was telling me that I should be so proud of myself, and I looked so good, and wasn’t I happier?

To say I wasn’t happier was a lie. But I didn’t like my body any more than I used to. I was happier because I was finally getting pseudo-positive feedback about my body, instead of overwhelmingly negative. And everyone was telling me that I should be happier, and that I was so much prettier and better this way, so I figured… what’s a little chronic dehydration and fainting spells and heart problems compared to being thinner?

That was seriously my thought process. How fucked up is that?

Let me just emphasize: I got really sick. I started fainting, like, once a week, and getting dizzy/blackouts on a pretty regular basis. I was chronically dehydrated and probably malnourished. I wasn’t gaining any muscle whatsoever. I found myself unable to do things I’d previously been able to, like lift heavy objects (I’ve always been strong) or jog up a couple of flights of stairs. I would break into a sweat, get dizzy, and have to sit down after even a quarter of a mile jog. It was really bad.

And I did not tell a damn soul. I still haven’t told anyone the whole thing, until uh, right now.

No one noticed, either! Except my stepmother and my father, who expressed gentle concern about the rate at which I was losing weight — and my dad wouldn’t have noticed on his own, except that my stepmother was severely anorexic as an adolescent and recognized that something was wrong, even if I was eating as I always had. My endocrinologist asked if I had problems and sent me to a cardiologist when I complained of dizziness and fainting, and nothing. But I was losing weight, so it’s like nothing else mattered.

A scale is intrinsically linked to all of that for me, because the relief I felt getting on a scale and realizing I’d lost another chunk of weight and that not getting told I was disgusting was going to continue is impossible to put into words. I lived in fear of going back to the place where the only time I was noticed for my body was when I was being ridiculed for it. Absolutely nothing else mattered.

Eventually I realized how fucked up this was and told my endocrinologist how the medication was affecting me. She was horrified, immediately took me off of it, and told me that I should have told her at the outset. And I slowly gained the weight back.

That’s okay. Or, I guess it became okay, because it wasn’t for a little bit, but I’d kind of realized that what I was doing was incredibly detrimental and damaging, and that stopping it would result in weight gain. I just stopped getting on a scale. I’d kick it under the cabinets whenever I went into the bathroom. Hell, I still do my best not to even look at a scale when one appears in my life. And all that is why. 

Literally no woman I know can interact with a scale without a ridiculous amount of anxiety and guilt. And I’m not entirely sure what to do about that, except to never ever ever buy one myself and to suggest that if you don’t need one to monitor health things for yourself or whatever, don’t use one. They’re the worst.

hannahorvath:

Kristen Stewart Dropped from ‘Snow White’ Sequel Plans (Exclusive)

Okay, so Kristen Stewart cheats on her boyfriend, who she is not married to, not engaged to, has no real legal bond to, and her career suffers. This is not the first movie she has been rumored to be dropped from. (I think it might be the third) People have talked about how this might hurt Breaking Dawn. How people will harass her at premieres or public appearances. Pretty much, the cheating scandal has made her such a liability that it might be a really long time before producers are willing to cast her in anything.

Meanwhile, Chris Brown physically assaults his girlfriend. There are pictures of what he did to Rihanna. There is a detailed police report saying exactly what he did. And has his career suffered at all? His most recent albums have only gotten more and more popular, he won a Grammy, he was invited to perform at the Grammys, and he still has a huge fan base, mostly female, disturbingly enough.

Meanwhile, Charlie Sheen physically assaults his wife, again, with detailed police reports. He makes anti-Semetic remarks about his boss. He goes on a bender that is captured by every major news outlet. And it’s all a joke. He trademarks all the crazy shit he says and makes money off the merchandise. He not only gets a new TV show, but it is the highest rated show on FX.

A+ sexism there, Hollywood.

(via paynerprise)

[TW: RAPE] Here’s all I want to say about the Reddit rape thread controversy:

If you haven’t heard, Reddit posted a thread asking rapists to tell their side of the story (really) and then [HUGE TRIGGER WARNING ON THIS LINK] Jezebel thought an intelligent thing to do would be to post pieces of it and go, “We should listen to them and learn from this!”

Nope. No, I have no interest in learning from rapists.

The voices of rapists are ALREADY privileged in the discussion of rape and rape culture. They are listened to above their victims every single time. I’m not clear on why we should continue to NOT listen to victims and instead prioritize the stories of rapists over that, under the umbrella of some bullshit about “learning.” This STILL boils down to one thing: “My wants are more important than anything else.”

I get that the point here is supposed to be “Learn from what goes on here!” WHY? Why are we learning from THIS and not what HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF WOMEN HAVE BEEN SAYING FOR YEARS? These men are telling the same stories, just with the slant of “I did this, so absolve me, Reddit!”

I did not find any of these stories informative. I found them infuriating and upsetting to the point of literal nausea, not least because of the context in which they were offered (i.e. apologism) and because people are accepting these as a form of “learning.” I have learned absolutely nothing from this, nor do I see any take away other than what is already known in the feminist community.

Our culture encourages rape apologism and victim-blaming enough as it is. To prioritize the rapist’s “side” is nothing more than upholding that standard. 

I don’t understand how in the world is this supposed to help combat rape culture. Because we understand the motivations of rapists, we can then curtail those motivations? On an individual level that essentially amounts to policing yourself and making yourself responsible for whether or not you are attacked, which is the absolute essence of rape culture. And as a society? Well, kyriarchy dictates that women are treated in such a way that rape culture exists. The entire dialogue needs to change from “don’t get raped” to “don’t rape,” and I have serious, serious doubts that the way to do that is to sit rapists down and go, “So why did you rape?”

They raped because our world tells them they are entitled to sex with women they want to have sex with. No counselor sitting them down and telling them that’s not true is going to get through to them, even when they’re young, if something about our society does not change. And I do not see the roots of that here. I see perpetuation of already-problematic cultural norms.

And frankly, do you know what I don’t care about? I don’t care about anyone’s “motivation” to rape someone else. We already KNOW those motivations. We as women hear them ALL THE TIME - “She was dressed like a slut! She flirted! She was drunk! She’d already hooked up with someone else! She was in my bed and didn’t say no!” We already fucking know!

I don’t care about the fact that they feel terrible or the fact that they thought better of it when they looked at their victim’s face and saw she was scared. I don’t care about how they felt in the moment, I don’t care about how they want to justify it, I don’t. Care. Because ultimately, the motivation doesn’t matter and it’s not teaching us anything that we don’t already know: men see women as objects, men who rape often know what they’re doing, and men who rape often aren’t strangers.

And what’s the take-away from this supposed to be? Don’t get drunk, don’t ever say a flirtatious or sexual thing if you don’t intend to have sex with the person you’re speaking to, and don’t trust anyone ever? That sounds exactly like rape culture to me.

For the record, I don’t think that nothing can be done to change rape culture. I think that a lot can be done, but listening to a bunch of rapists whine about how there’s a REASON they raped, guys, it’s not JUST about the victim is not one of them.

What’s most infuriating to me is that victims speak about these things all the time — but they’re ignored, and the second some circle-jerk of rape apologism gets posted on Reddit, it gets major media attention.

Of course it does. Male voices are the only ones that really matter, right? 

[TW: Rape] List of Comedians defending Tosh

amaditalks:

List of Comedians that are being unapologetically dense about this issue:

  • Jim Norton (“Why is it okay for an actor to play a rapist, but not for a comic to joke about it?”)
  • Louis C.K. (“your show makes me laugh every time I watch it. And you have pretty eyes”) 
  • Patton Oswalt (“Wow, @danieltosh had to apologize to a self-aggrandizing, idiotic blogger. Hope I never have to do that (again).”)
  • Dane Cook (“If you journey through life easily offended by other peoples words I think it’s best for everyone if you just kill yourself”)
  • Anthony Jeselnik (“An offended audience member repeating a comedian’s act from memory is worse than, literally, anything”)
  • Stevie Ryan (“Daniel Tosh can’t make a rape joke but Eminem can have hit songs about it? PS. AIDS jokes are funnier”)
  • Doug Stanhope (“You’re hilarious. If you ever apologize to a heckler again I will rape you. #FuckThatPig”) — wow.
  • Opie Radio (“To all the idiots! I completely support Daniel Tosh being a comic in a comedy club! Even if it means rape jokes!”)
  • Kumail Nanjiani (“Two things about the Tosh thing. 1. It was said in the moment and not a pre written thing. 2. If you think he’s pro rape you’re an idiot.”) — this one, though. as though it makes it better that it was an off-the-cuff comment. don’t you see how revealing that is about him and his values?
  • Sarah Beattie (“calm down about rape jokes everyone’s been raped at least once by george lucas”)
  • Doug Benson (“Maybe Daniel Tosh was confused about where he was. He wouldn’t have offended anyone over at the Rape Factory. #ThisTweetWillBeDeletedSoon”)

Just so you have a list and can see how horrible people are all in one place

Add:

  • Rob Delaney (linked approvingly to Sarah Beattie’s tweet quoted above and said “It’s unwise to rush to judgement. Unless you’ve read something DICTATED to a COOKIE BLOGGER. Then, sing your song, internets!”)
  • Michael Ian Black from “The State” etc. (replied to Kumail Nanjiani saying “What kind of rape? Straight-up rape or funny rape? Because he might think a funny rape was funny.”)
  • Jesse Thorn of MaximumFun.org & Hodgman’s podcast (“It’s anyone’s right to be offended at a comedy show, but it’s important to comics to be able to try stuff, including trying to push limits.”) who’s also blocking anyone who @ replies him on the topic without any engagement
  • alleged comedian Dan Dodge (@TheOnlyDanDodge, Twitter bio says “failed comic”) who personally made a rape threat almost identical to Tosh’s against me after some dudebro fan poked him to come comment

Look at this list of people who should no longer have careers.

(via fatbodypolitics)

Petition to move CeCe to a women's facility»

[TW: mention of possibility of sexual assault]

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

doctorqueer:

please take a moment to sign this petition and to pass it on.


It asks that CeCe serve her time in a women’s prison rather than a men’s facility, where she is currently set to serve her time.

Please freaking sign. Otherwise she will literally be doomed to two+ years of constant sexual abuse.

(via onceuponanotsolongtimeago)