I’m sorry I’m a male. I’m sorry society treats me better than women, for whatever reason, when I really don’t deserve it.
I’m sorry I’m white. I’m sorry for those who have been persecuted because of their race. I really am.
But please please please stop making me an enemy simply because of the way I was born. I don’t want women or any race to be treated poorly. But please stop making white males an enemy because of it simply because we’re both white and male.
^ FYI this is another thing that makes you creepy, guy who complained that girls and women call you creepy for no reason.
ETA: Some actual education
NO. NO. IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEE FEES. IT’S ABOUT ENDING FUCKING OPPRESSION.
No one wants you to feel guilty - they want you to feel informed. They want you to feel incensed that others don’t have the same rights and privileges as you, not indignant that someone of a marginalized group had the audacity to say it to you and it made you feel a twinge of badness for one fucking second.
Whether or not your dumb ass feels guilt is none of my concern. What concerns me is how you use your privilege to help others. I don’t give a shit what you do with your own time or your own learning. But if you’re not willing to step up to the plate and put yourself on the line when someone who is less privileged than you is being harmed, then you’re worthless to me.
Fuck your guilt.
Guilt is useless.
It’s simply this:
“ Let me explain this by giving you an analogy. Let’s say you’re crossing the street and someone hits you with their car. They might have been going at 5 miles an hour, or 60, but either way, you’re now on the concrete, injured in some way; be it a sore body, or a mangled one. Now, let’s say that you’re still conscious, and very cognizant of every way in which your body is hurting, bleeding, burning. Let’s say you’re groaning in pain. Let’s say you’re screaming, “It hurts, it hurts!”
Now, let’s say the driver gets out of the car, start sobbing and goes, “Oh my god, I didn’t mean to do it, so you should stop saying that it hurts.” or “Every time you groan, you’re making me feel bad about the fact that I hit you! I don’t want to feel guilt!” or “I didn’t really hit you, I couldn’t have. I’m a good driver, and good drivers don’t hit people with cars!” or “I wasn’t trying to hit you! I didn’t mean to. I didn’t see you!” or “Shut up, shut up, shut up, your reactions are making me feel awful!” or “I didn’t hit you that hard. Get up and walk it off, you’re just overreacting.” or “Seriously, stop groaning. Stop bleeding. Get up and walk away! You’re making me feel guilty! You’re making me feel bad! I know I hit you with a car, but what about me? What about how I feel?” or “I’m crying because I hit you with a car, and you’re more concerned with the fact that you’re bleeding?! Why aren’t you comforting me?” or “How am I going to avoid hitting you if you won’t make sure I can see you?” or “Y’know, I got hit by a cyclist once.”
Would you feel sympathy for this driver, or would you think, “None of that compares to the pain I feel right now!” and “Stop trivializing my pain!” and “This is not about you!” and, “I don’t give a fuck about your tears, you just hit me with your fucking car!””
Basically your crying out in your pain is harshing their squee. Please either quit suffering or suffer over THERE where they can’t see or hear you (because that’s how they want their world to be anyway).
“I cannot hide my anger to spare you guilt, nor hurt feelings, nor answering anger; for to do so insults and trivializes all our efforts. Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one’s own actions or lack of action.” Audre Lorde, “The Uses of Anger”
In case you didn’t get it from any of the above:
There is not a single fucking person on earth who wants you to feel sorry about the privilege that you have. You can’t control what privileges you have. What we want you to do is USE THAT SHIT TO END OPPRESSION.
We’re not the ones who ‘made you the enemy’
Society did that.
Take it up with society.
Prove yourself an ally.