Saying that you don’t go through the absolute worst of oppression is not:
- saying you aren’t oppressed
- saying that nothing bad ever happens to you
- belittling the shit you do go through
What it is:
- asking you to realize that there are scales and some people might need more immediate help than others, and to PLEASE not compare them, appropriate them, or conflate them
The man who shot and killed 17-year-old Trayvon Martin, setting off a nationwide outpouring of anger, told police that Martin knocked him down with a single punch and slammed his head into the sidewalk several times — an account that police said witnesses have corroborated, according to The Orlando Sentinel.
Important to note.
I can’t wait for the right wingers who support the SYG law to make the talk show circuit noting that Trayvon had no duty to retreat when he felt his life was in danger.
Here’s my problem with this. There is this implication that Trayvon Martin DIDN’T fight back. I don’t agree with this. If Trayvon Martin felt that his life was in danger, which we now know it was, he NEEDED to fight to save himself.
These facts REMAIN in the forefront of my mind when people talk about Trayvon Martin “Attacking” his murderer:
The murderer was told NOT to pursue but did.
The murderer was told not to pursue and not only did but LEFT HIS VEHICLE of his own free will
The murderer’s “Reasoning” for calling the police and all of the subsequent actions were that Trayvon Martin was “Suspicious” and even by the murderers account what made him suspicious was that he was “Walking and talking on his cell phone.” THAT’S IT. That is what made him “Suspicious.” That is what made him PURSUIT WORTHY.
I hope Trayvon Martin DID get a few good punches in on HIS ATTACKER. It was his last ditch effort to SAVE HIS OWN LIFE.
“There are the occasions that men—intellectual men, clever men, engaged men—insist on playing devil’s advocate, desirous of a debate on some aspect of feminist theory or reproductive rights or some other subject generally filed under the heading: Women’s Issues. These intellectual, clever, engaged men want to endlessly probe my argument for weaknesses, want to wrestle over details, want to argue just for fun—and they wonder, these intellectual, clever, engaged men, why my voice keeps raising and why my face is flushed and why, after an hour of fighting my corner, hot tears burn the corners of my eyes. Why do you have to take this stuff so personally? ask the intellectual, clever, and engaged men, who have never considered that the content of the abstract exercise that’s so much fun for them is the stuff of my life.”
Melissa McEwan, of course, on the terrible bargain. My life as a woman, as a queer person, as a fat person, is not your thought experiment. (via sanitywatchers)
This really struck a chord. Even my boyfriend, feminist that he is, can have this reaction when I’m in tears after an NPR story. This is my fucking life. Excuse me if I can’t remove the personal.
I reblogged this before, but I like it a lot so I’m reblogging it again.
This whole thing is the reason why confrontations with people that I consider friends always leaves me crying. Like, I get so angry and so flustered because it’s not just some stupid game to me, like it is to them. It’s something that’s real and personal.
This is really, really sad. I’m sorry people treat you that way fat people. Does anyone have any advice for me on trying to make sure my behavior so that I don’t ever discriminate against fat people, because I’ve only become aware of any real prejudice against them really and I’m concerned I may be contributing to that without realising.
- Don’t use the word “fat” as a synonym for anything negative. Or anything at all. “Fat” is an adjective. It is a body type. In the same way that thin means thin and tall means tall, fat means fat. That being said, a lot of fat people feel shamed and don’t claim the word to describe their bodies, so you should make sure it’s okay with them first.
- Don’t call yourself fat unless you are fat.
- When fat people complain about size-specific problems, this is your cue to listen. Don’t say “but thin people…” because that’s generally someone’s way of saying that fat issues aren’t important, but thin people’s are.
- Know that someone’s body size does NOT determine their character, success, intelligence, or lifestyles.
- Know that fat does not automatically mean unhealthy, but even if it did, it would not be your business to talk to that person about your health, unless they consented you to do so.